ChatterBank1 min ago
help needed urgently
hi sorry if this post is duplicated. anyway I split form my ex about five years ago, there are a lot of issues re: access to children due to him being violent, setting garden shed on fire, lies, mental health issues etc etc, I have however agreed to him seeing them once a fortnight at a contact centre which he has failed to set up. Whilst we were together his mother lent us her credit card and pin to withdraw money, we both get a little carried away and the upshot was she took out a loan and paid the credit card off, After my ex left I had to leave work (to care for the kids) and stopped paying the loan but my ex assured me that he was paying towards it (as he wasn't paying for the kids I had no reason to doubt him after all his money must be going somewhere and that the reason he told me he wasn't paying for them), his mother came round to mine yesterday and threatened me with the fraud squad re: the card stating hat her son had no idea of the amount of money being spent and that he was no longer paying as he has been paying me for the last eight months???? not sure where that came from she then said almost in the same sentence and "we need to sort out access for my son" (without a contact centre!!!) The last time the card was used was approx four and a half years ago, I now have a new job and am very scared that if I get taken to court for fraud I will lose my job. Please can someone tell me if the fraud squad can get involved or is she trying to blackmail me into letting her son see the kids without the contact centre.
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In my humble opinion only, I would doubt very much that any criminal prosecutions would arise from any of this. It is pretty obvious she is trying to blackmail you into allowing your ex access without the contact centre. (Personally from what you say about his mental health - I really wouldn't be badgered into doing this). If she took this matter to the police, they would first ask why she didnt report the "fraud" 4� yrs ago? And, assuming she or her son has been making payments against the card, her credit card company would also question the time passed since the "crime" was committed. I really dont think you have much to worry about - stick to your guns and don't be bullied into anything for the sake of your kids if no-one else
the law has changed for children about 5 years ago ..both parents have the same rights to the child or children . BUT !. if your children are over 5 years old then you still have the old rules were the mother has the say. that is why he is comen to you coz he has been told without your consent he has no rights to demand.. you dont have to speak to him or the childrens granparents. he can clame you are unfair .. but with the beatings you have had he has no chance as for the kids what do they want ?
and fraud what a joke lol she has no chance... the law is on your side you pay nothing at all ok.. he is the father let him pay after all he is payin you nothing ... and remember he said he was paying it .. so he has took responserbilerty for it ...and yes you are being blackmailed... SHAME THEY DONT HAVE A CASE LOL
she is only after your money coz u r workin now.. the same old story from mother to son ..... "well she is workin now so why should you pay all the money back ".... take my advice keep her away from your door ! she will always take her sons side....
she is the main link from you and your kids and him. CLOSE THE LINK !
she is the main link from you and your kids and him. CLOSE THE LINK !
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