Great put down suggestions

[annie0000]

Hi guys, I am looking for some good put downs for my son to use against some bullies who are giving him grief at school - keep them suitable for an 8 going on 9 year old. All help much appreciated. Cheers

[tiggerblue10]

What kind of things do they say to him?

[stewey]

Is it physical or verbal bullying? Also keep in mind that "smart' answers might escalate the situation.

[tiggerblue10]

Thats what I was thinking Stewey. If he tries to say something back it might make it worse. How many of them are there? If its more than one bully it may not be a good idea.

I would take the matter up with the Head.

[Im-noddy]

Just like on here then stewy

[annie0000]

It was physical a few months ago, now mainly verbal and about him wearing glasses and other things that he won't tell me. As for escalating it, not necessarily a bad thing - general opinion seems to be that if he stands up for himself, win, lose or draw, it will show that he is not a soft touch and make them think twice.

[DebsyDoo]

Dunno about all this "PC" stuff,
But when my daughter was about 7 or 8 & was frightened to go out & play at one point because some kids "bullying" her - I dealt with it by going up to the main culprit poking my finger about 1/4 inch under his nose & basically threatening him in no uncertain terms - that if I heard his name mentioned again - I would break his f**kin' neck !!! Never had no more trouble from him !
Alas, the good old days !

[annie0000]

Oh I am talking it up with the school, but he could do with a way to deal with it himself so that it increases his self esteem. I was thinking along the lines of :

I may wear glasses,
but you are ugly and at least I can take my glasses off,
you'll still be ugly - just a bit more blurry.

[annie0000]

Debsy - I entirely agree, if I thought I could safely get away with it, I would - you just never know when an opportunity may present itself. Actually I would like to snap the ringleaders neck like a twig, he has a face I could never tire of punching, but I guess violence is not the answer, the threat of it may be though!

[tiggerblue10]

Whatever you decide to do let us know how it goes Annie xxx

[DebsyDoo]

As long as you DO NOT actually touch him/them yeah, in this day & age it's all too easy to find youself (even as the injured party) on the wrong side of the law !
Ridiculous I know - but that's how it is !!!
(and I DO know exactly how you feel, as I did at the time !)
Good luck !!

[craft1948]

just drop him off at school whilst carrying a sawn-off....

[annie0000]

wiil do tiggerblue - I have a whole thread about it on parenting, but the upshot is that my son wants me to speak to the school about it however, there are only 3 weeks left of the school year, so I am not expecting them to be too interested. My younger son is desperate to be let loose on the main instigator and if nothing happens with the school, we may happen to pass his house during the holidays when "little bro" is in a particularly bad mood and let him have his way.
debsy - perish the thought that I would ever lay a finger on the little darling!

[cazzz1975]

please speak to the school about it annie, they are not as useless as you think, remember if he is a sensitive lad saying things that are out of character as a putdown may cause the situation to get out of hand. the boys may get even worse with him because they can sense his fear

make a big fuss about it at school and keep tabs on what they are going to do to help him. my daughter went through a similar thing with a group of little B****'s! I went up to them and told them that I was on to their game, the ring leader actually burst into tears, it did calm things down

[annie0000]

craft, sawn off hard to get hold off - would a base ball bat suffice?
carabint - I am really looking for things to say back that just makes it not worth the bother for them to pick on him, just to show that he is not a pushover. These boys were getting together a gang who were all throwing things at him - it now seems to be more verbal - 1 ringleader and a couple of henchmen. If it was one on one, I would be inclined to let them get on with it- as soon as it becomes a group of them, it needs sorting. A good size 11 up the bum would probably be the quickest way. My husband always says that once they taste their own blood it makes them think twice, so even if my son gets beat as long as he gets a couple of good shots in it will put them off coming back for more, but as a mother I don't want it to get to that stage.

[DebsyDoo]

Baseball bat across the back of the legs'll slow him down !
Then he won't be able to chase your little'un !

[annie0000]

Hi cazz, why are children such little sh!ts to each other? Just been speaking to my son, and one of them kicked him in the groin the other day as the other two stood and laughed - I have had it now - verbal put downs are now obselete - it had better get sorted out on Monday or I will have them done for assault.

[motomad]

annie, my son was bullied a few years ago whilst at primary school.Eventually he did fight back but got into trouble beacause he was a big lad (although not older).My husband went to the school and pointed out that all the talking in the world would not help because a bully by nature is not someone you can discuuss things with.What i am really trying to say is perhaps a wallop off your son is the only thing these bullys understand. Good luck.

[annie0000]

motomad - I entirely agree - if it was one against one. My son and the main instigator are of a similar height - my son is slightly older and I would say stronger looking, but he's a lover not a fighter as the saying goes. I have just drafted a letter so that I have my concerns in writing, so that if anything does escalate, I can show that I have already raised it - which I originally did months ago.

[tamborine]

my daughters bully had his hair pulled out & swift backside kick from me ...... he's now 6ft, 12stone - am waiting ;(