this is what ya get for being nosey!

[leanne_1987]

this is going to be quite long...right following my previous post about a bloke i was seeing, we got together and hes stays here up to 4-5 times a week, i saw a post on a mutural friends fb status from his ex asking about a car the lass is selling asking what kind of car it is as her fella is looking for one but hes only ust started back at work after being made redundant... which he has, he has got a ob with my dad and he picks him up each morning either from here or his nans a different side of townto his ex, i really do not know what to think about it all, i dont want to say anything to him as its early days and he will know i've been being nosey. what would you do? or say?

[China Doll]

I would say something. What's the point in sitting and festering on it?

[leanne_1987]

but how do i bring it up and what do i say?? dont want to start an arguement if there isnt anything going on

[leanne_1987]

sorry posted in the wrong section, im really working myself up about this now had bad relationships in the past

[China Doll]

Say you saw a post from his ex on FB and it's worded funny as you think she's still referring to him as her fella. I'm assuming that's what's worrying you at any rate. If he's with you or your dad most of the time, then I would imagine there might be a good explanation. The ex could have a new boyfriend who has also just found work, it's not that unbelievable given the hard times lots of people are happing in the current climate. I just don't know what your other options are; well I do but it doesn't sound like you can just forget about it, and I'm guessing that snooping around on facebook doesn't sound particularly appealing. I just think a sensible conversation (it doesn't have to be a row) would probably give you more of an idea.

[bednobs]

i dont get what you are saying?
the exes boyfriend works with your dad and needs a car??

[China Doll]

I think she thinks her boyfriend who is the ex to this female was asking about a car for 'her fella'... assuming of course that the female ex hasn't actually maybe got a completely new fella who is nothing to do with leanne's boyfriend.

If that makes sense.

[leanne_1987]

a blokes ex, my fella, they do have kids together though so obviously still in touch

[leanne_1987]

its all come out now! im such a mug but i also feel sorry fo her she had no idea either

[boxtops]

what do you mean, "it's all come out now?" - are you the other woman, after all...?