If you dont have sex with your husband do you assume that he is taking care of things himself ??

[happyone2]

Hi.......... i was wondering, if a couple dont have much of a sex life or none at all.............does this mean that neither of the couple pleasure them selves .....Do both assume that the other is or isnt on their own ( or presumably with somebody else )

I ask, because a friend of mine makes love to his girlfriend once every couple of months and assumes she knows that he does it alone ........... i didnt know if that assumption could be taken as read.

[piggynose]

this should be interesting.

[Whickerman]

assume what you like, it's happening whether you're doing it, not doing it, at it like rabbits or in a nunnery.

[ummmm]

I think most people pleasure themselves regardless of how often they have sex with each other.

[EcclesCake]

What age group are we considering here?

[boxtops]

Everyone's different, some will, some won't, I don't think you can make any assumptions at all - and certainly not that if it's not happening at home, that there's a third party involved. Some people need it more than others, others are quite happy without so much.

[happyone2]

Age group 40s - 50s............... i just wondered if both partners think the other is or isnt...........or do they talk about it ??

[ummmm]

Do you think all those ladies rampant rabbits go unused waiting for hubby to want to play hide the sausage?

[cazzz1975]

I agree with boxtops

[piggynose]

my question is, is there such as thing as a perfect or almost perfect sexual relationship? i ask because both sexes usually have different needs.

[ummmm]

Yes there is piggy, two people who have the same needs. It happens now and then :-)

[Sqad]

Age Group 40's 50's eh?

Commonest scenario, the woman, married, kids, probably grandkids has been programmed at birth for just that.....and she has realised this and is happy....well maybe not happy, but not unhappy....contented with her lot.

Noe the man....probably bored with sex, with his lot in life is NOT programmed for this and still yearns for the excitement of sex with another woman.....any woman.....hence the prevalence of prostitution, massage parlours, escort agencies, one night stands and mistresses.

[piggynose]

maybe i´m unlucky ummmmm

[Postdog]

OK, when you are a certain age, by yourself is of necessity, whether you are getting any or not. A little older, and even if you have it on tap, sometimes you just want a bit of "you" time, and then as you get older - well, saying no more because I have Facebook friends on here.

Suffice it to say that in the scheme of things, other things matter besides that and you shouldn't assume that they are getting it from a takeaway or self service restaurant. They may have just lost their appetite and be on a diet.

[Booldawg]

unless they have spoken about it, there could well be one that isnt too happy with the arrangement - this will lead to resentment.#

if he/her isnt 'taking things to hand' then rest assured one of Squads suggestions would have been comtemplated by the unhappy party. Hear it all the time at work, it would appear to be more common than thought.

[happyone2]

I suppose this is my query...............are the woman naive enough to think that this isnt happening or ignoring the obvious.................... if ones husband is doing it alone, but accepting that it isnt there within the relationship............ what does this say.............im soooo confused..... where is the honesty, where is the shared exprience

[DTCwordfan]

works both ways notso-happyone.

[Postdog]

My god if sex is the be all and end all in a relationship that's a sad state of affairs.

[DTCwordfan]

agree there Postdog...that's a hard fact.

[cazzz1975]

I think maybe there is a lack of communication, that is why there are so many assumptions.

[craft1948]

If you don't have sex with your husband..............somebody else will.