Should My Girlfriend Be Hanging Out With Other Guys? Help?

[foREVerA7X]

So my girlfriend of 9 months just got a a part time job....well..about 2 months ago. She got a job at Hooters so she's surrounded by perverts all day. She also goes to an automotive engineering college, so the guys are always drooling over her cause she's like the only girl in the class. The guys are all really nice to her and flirt with her all the time...she says that they are her only friends and that she wants me to let her hang out at their houses alone (without me) and go bowling and to the movies and such.

I am very against this however my girlfriend is not. She claims she doesn't have any girl friends but the ones she works with, and that there all older than her and don't have time to hang out. She dosn't ever dress like a *** in public except her hooters outfit at work, she dosn't ever where makeup either unless she's at work either she's just naturally pretty and all the guys flirt with her and it pisses me off so bad.

I know i'm lucky to have her and she let's me hang out with other people including girls and she says that she trust me around them, but how do I know I can trust her if she's around guys 24-7, should I risk my relationship with her and say that I'm against it or should I suck it up and let her go do things with other guys?

[1ndex]

She will grow out of other men as she sees your good traits. She has chosen you as her partner so dont upset things by being possessive, be patient and trust her.

[beejay1124]

yup--suck it up

[sandyRoe]

This place, Hooters, they sell car horn and klaxons? Stuff like that?

[beejay1124]

i think so sandy-- theres a few of them along the Boucher Road

[sandyRoe]

I was in M+S on the Boucher Rd just the other day. I'd not noticed anything like this as we went there.
http://www.hooters.com/Home/Default.aspx

[beejay1124]

cant think of anywhere in Belfast you'd get anything like that
more likely to have a park drive hanging out of their mouth and downing a pint of cider

[Mosaic]

Sounds like a dull night on the night shift help desk out Ohio way, to me.

[chiragm984]

I think you should to allow her for that , if she could beliefs on you ,then why aren't you ? So, keep trust on her and enjoy the relationship.

[Old_Geezer]

You must do as you feel. I think others here seem very liberal in their thinking. It's one thing to meet an old friend, but to go out with other men to movies and bowling (presumably just the two of them) sounds to me like she doesn't look at the relationship the same way you do. She seems to be playing the field. If she doesn't have any girl friends then perhaps she should try to find some ? Not wishing to categorise unduly but I suspect female and male (same and opposite gender) friends often tend to provide different needs in a friendship even if the roles overlap. Maybe you too need to talk, but the decision on whether to put up with it is up to you. Can you ignore it, or would you end up resenting it always ?

[Sharingan]

I have mostly male friends and some female friends and I would drop anyone very quickly who thought they had a right to tell me that I cant go out and have fun with any of them. If someone didn't trust me sufficiently then I think its perhaps because they themselves have a nature where perhaps they would behave that way so the thought that I would comes easily to them. Jealousy and possesiveness is a mega turn off, so just chill out and accept that it's you she wants as a partner and don't drive her away.

[Svejk]

Keep a close eye on her.
If you give women an inch they'll take a mile.

[grasscarp]

Hooters is a chain in USA. I went in one last month in Johannesburg. The waitresses wear not very much. Pants, which are like knickers and skimpy tops etc they have plenty of tvs showing sports. The idea is to attract blokes.

[woofgang]

Is it a dealbreaker for you? if it is then leave, if its not then stay. Your choice.

[factor-fiction]

Hi Kev- you've also had some answers on some of the other forums on which you posted this, eg http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130315193621AAOSGgW

[Answerprancer]

Hooters is a titty bar (US based) I've been to one and the clientele are not generally "perverts".
OP: it sounds to me as if you're a bit insecure and jealous - I think you should relax, there's nothing wrong with your gf being around other guys IMO. Chill!

[Answerprancer]

..LOL the Hooters I went to was on Gulf Shores Al, it was an interesting experience, our waitress was the lovely "Megan" - who was wearing very sexy skintight lycra and served us a couple of wonderful Long Island iced teas :-)

[joko]

its not up to you to LET her do anything

you have no choice in the matter

[boxtops]

I agree with joko, you can't control what she does. Some of my best friends are blokes. You have to learn to trust and to live with it.

[Anngel]

Hi Forever, you don't say how old you are. My son had a similar issue with his girlfriend (now wife). They worked in a bar and due to her impressive lady bits was always being ogled. Although he was there to see this he couldn't react badly to customers. Although I agree with people that you should trust your girlfriend, I do have some issues with the modern attitude to keeping with your friends rather than your boyfriend/girlfriend. What is so wrong with being loyal and wanting to spend time only with your partner. If you can't spend that time, is there really any future in a long-term relationship. I know that there is all this hoohah about being able to trust. But if you are in social environment, with possible alcohol consumption, the barriers naturally go down. In my opinion this is one of the reasons why infidelity is so common nowadays. That said, I'm sure that any young women on here would maintain that they are capable of resisting other men. One of my work colleagues even said she would share a bed with someone and not expect anything to happen....maybe the man would not agree??? The question you have to ask is this - is your girlfriend perhaps less interested in a long-term relationship than you are? Let's face it the chance of her meeting someone more interesting/good looking/better off than you is vastly increased if she goes out with more of them. But what exactly can you do apart from dumping her. You don't sound very confident in what you have to offer. Sorry this is such a huge post. Hope it makes sense!!

[joko]

Anngel - if every time you got a new boyfriend you abandoned all your mates, then you would b very lonely if you split... they would not keep taking you back

why on earth would you want to spend all your time with one person? surely you would get bored and miss other people.

fact is there is room for both in a persons life, and anyone who expects a person to abandon their old life for them doesn't deserve a partner