Anybody Here Ever Been In A Similar Situation?

[LilyMunn22]

Basically. I am a 22 year old. A virgin. Yeah, a 22 year old virgin.

After 22 years of virginity (which has included quite a number blowjobs and *** fingering), I have finally met someone that I feel I am ready to experience this very normal everyday thing with, for the first time.

However, we are not in a relationship, this is my choice. Also, I'm pretty convinced that relationships are not my thing, well for now anyway.

I think it's safe to say that I really dig this guy. Not in a 'romantic, let's get into a relationship' kind of thing, but more of, strictly 'sexual no strings attached' kind of way. I'm aware of feelings being a thing, and more so than not, getting into the way of things, but I don't care. I want this guy. I am mad about him.

So anyway, he doesn't have a clue that I am a virgin. And I don't plan on telling him either.

So my question is: is it okay if I don't tell him? Will he be able to tell when everything goes down? Like will he be able to feel that I am untouched down there?

Also, the bleeding, is there anyway to prevent it?

If you've been in a similar situation, please tell me how it worked out. (And if the bleeding is as scary as Google makes it seem).

Thanks.

[ummmm]

At 22 there's a good chance your hymen has already broken so bleeding shouldn't be an issue.

[Barmaid]

Is it Okay if I dont tell him? Yes
Will he be able to tell when everything goes down? Probably unlikely
Will he be able to feel I am untouched down there? Probably unlikely

Is there anyway to prevent the bleeding? No

But as Ummm says, likely not to be an issue anyway.

By your very questions, I wonder whether you have properly thought this through.

[ummmm]

It's a perfectly sensible question on a subject many women fear!

Lily has said she's been Googling and Google often directs people to AB.

[mccfluff]

perfectly fine not to tell him, but i think it might be a better experience for you if you do tell him.

[whiskeryron]

Personal question Lily, when you menstruate do you use Tampons ? If so you have broken your Hymen already so no probs.

[LilyMunn22]

Hey everyone. Thankful for your responses. I haven't and/never will use tampons.

[woofgang]

if you are 22, I don’t think you can say you have experienced 22 years of virginity....allowing that sex is legal from 16 where you are, that only makes around 6 years....

[EDDIE51]

If this guy is a 'special' as he sounds he will consider it an honor that you should choose to lose your virginity to him. I would let him know it will be your first time but your choice either way.

[EDDIE51]

By the way I'm male but I did not lose my virginity until I was 23 !
(yes really)When I did it was not 'special' all over in a couple of minutes.
I would tell him so he can make an effort for it to be good for you.

[LilyMunn22]

Thank you, Eddie. Appreciate your feedback. :)

[lailu]

a few decent words wouldn't be wrong. especially coming from a (hopefully)22 yr old. after all the no. of blow jobs and all the fingering you have done as you say will it be worth going about with this guy u r suddenly so crazy about.

[Sqad]

\\\After 22 years of virginity (which has included quite a number blowjobs and *** fingering),\\\

and a number of men who have "fingered" you.......I would be surprised that you were a virgin....very surprised.

Men are not worried about the state of your virginity so don't worry about that.

Bleeding......no problem....except for the sheets.

[anneasquith]

Nb."" The bleeding"" Completely OTT speculation.

[LilyMunn22]

It was pretty painful, but it was a beautiful experience I will never forget. I'm so glad my first time was not horrible, haha.

Thank you for all of your inputs. :)

[Sipowicz]

"inputs" is that a euphemism?