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Why Is It That Regardless How Many Truly Quite Embarrassingly Pathetic Times Ive Been Screwed Over Not Been Able To Lose Faith In Humanity??
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Im not going to lie say that I have TIME & TIME AGAIN A RIDICULOUS AMOUNT BEEN SCREWED OVER by all types of people on different levels from strangers I never met rape me to people I thought were friends rip me off,rob me to boyfriends even a fiancé beat me,cause me to have a miscarriage,cheat on me with my best friend even as messed up as my ACTUAL MOTHER kick me out A WEEK AFTER MY BIRTHDAY AND COUPLE MONTHS AFTER MY GRANDMA DIED and she threw away 3 FILLED GARBAGE BAGS OF 98% OF ALL THE CLOTHES I OWNED WHICH ALOT WERE EXPENSIVE AND SHE BOUGHT ME IN THE FIRST PLACE,I was fortunate enough to get to come live with my bf I started dating not even a month prior and his grandma and step grandpa that hes living with found out I was pregnant and hit a rough patch from stress of my mom and finding out I was pregnant and asked her if I could please come and live with her she told me to go to a homeless shelter my bf and I ended up working it out and have been HAPPY pretty much the whole time other then on super RARE occasions going on 8 months and hes told me he has absolutely every intention of in the near future marrying me.On the anniversary of my sisters suicide she had me charged with a felony and arrested for something I didn do a couple days after my mom asked me to move back in and told her no cuz Im TRULY HAPPY FOR ONCE WITH MY BF so Ive been through ALOT and its like I cant even MAKE myself lose faith in humanity why is that?Especially when everyone else has imo PLEASE HELP
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You ask a good question - why when we are beaten and battered (mentally and/or physically ) do we keep trying again? It's the hope that some day everything will be OK and we can find happiness, for some that never happens. If you have found some level of contentment then see it as a victory for you after all the setbacks. Be happy.
11:11 Fri 18th May 2018
This is one long rant.
As you have not included one full stop we cant even break it up in to sentences to make it easier to read.
Sadly you sound like a person who is one of lifes victims, instead of controlling and managing your life you have put yourself in situations where you can easily be taken advantage of.
As the common denominator is YOU then you have to look at yourself and wonder what it is you have done to allow yourself to be constantly treated like this.
I assume you are British (though my be American) but if you are British have you though of going on the Jeremy Kyle show?
As you have not included one full stop we cant even break it up in to sentences to make it easier to read.
Sadly you sound like a person who is one of lifes victims, instead of controlling and managing your life you have put yourself in situations where you can easily be taken advantage of.
As the common denominator is YOU then you have to look at yourself and wonder what it is you have done to allow yourself to be constantly treated like this.
I assume you are British (though my be American) but if you are British have you though of going on the Jeremy Kyle show?
You are part of humanity so you know not everyone is like that. Maybe that's why you correctly retain faith.
You seem to be a victim which suggests some of your issue might be that you are attracted to domineering folk. You may wish to mull that over and see if there's a way to identify why that happens and how to avoid it.
Since you are happy with your present boyfriend hopfully you are now looking at a better future anyway.
Do you lack self confidence ? Are there courses that might help you look at be more self assured. ?
Your mother may have been feeling so low regarding her mother's death that she just wanted to clear everything. It's unfortunate a lot of your stuff was erroneously slung too, but try to put that in the past.
I think you need a more settled period in your life. I hope that will now be the case.
You seem to be a victim which suggests some of your issue might be that you are attracted to domineering folk. You may wish to mull that over and see if there's a way to identify why that happens and how to avoid it.
Since you are happy with your present boyfriend hopfully you are now looking at a better future anyway.
Do you lack self confidence ? Are there courses that might help you look at be more self assured. ?
Your mother may have been feeling so low regarding her mother's death that she just wanted to clear everything. It's unfortunate a lot of your stuff was erroneously slung too, but try to put that in the past.
I think you need a more settled period in your life. I hope that will now be the case.
Guilbert, I think you are being a bit harsh, and more than a bit sarcastic, referencing the Jeremy Kyle show. The post is difficult to read because of the lack of sentence construction or punctuation, but that can be how a stream of thought is expressed when a person is distressed.
My advice to Marilyn is to try to concentrate on people who treat you well, and to walk away from those who abuse you. You need to find worth in yourself before others will find worth in you. Maybe your own lack of self-worth is what leads other people to feel they can treat you badly. if you let them see that you will not put up with being treated badly, they may be less likely to do so.
Of course, it is not easy to develop that kind of confidence if you have been lacking confidence all your life. Are you in a position to be able to find some counselling? Even joining an online self-help group might be a help to you.
It is a great credit to you that you have not lost your faith in other people. Try not to dwell on the wrongs that have been done to you. That will only bring you down and make you depressed.
Good luck.
My advice to Marilyn is to try to concentrate on people who treat you well, and to walk away from those who abuse you. You need to find worth in yourself before others will find worth in you. Maybe your own lack of self-worth is what leads other people to feel they can treat you badly. if you let them see that you will not put up with being treated badly, they may be less likely to do so.
Of course, it is not easy to develop that kind of confidence if you have been lacking confidence all your life. Are you in a position to be able to find some counselling? Even joining an online self-help group might be a help to you.
It is a great credit to you that you have not lost your faith in other people. Try not to dwell on the wrongs that have been done to you. That will only bring you down and make you depressed.
Good luck.
>>>and more than a bit sarcastic
Yes true, but I also tried to be helpful as well.
We also never know if these sorts of questions are "wind ups" so I did want to add one flippant comment to show we were not taken in.
With questions like this it covers such a wide spectrum of situations it is very difficult to give accurate advice as we don't know the people involved, all the background information, and the reasons people behaved like they did.
Also they end on PLEASE HELP but it is no clear what help they want.
Yes true, but I also tried to be helpful as well.
We also never know if these sorts of questions are "wind ups" so I did want to add one flippant comment to show we were not taken in.
With questions like this it covers such a wide spectrum of situations it is very difficult to give accurate advice as we don't know the people involved, all the background information, and the reasons people behaved like they did.
Also they end on PLEASE HELP but it is no clear what help they want.
The help I was referring to was basically just answering the questions why is it no matter how hard I try from what I have been through in my life that I still am completely and totally UNABLE to lose faith that there ARE actually some people out there in this world that ARE TRULY GOOD AND CARING people out there somewhere even if I don’t come across them before I eventually die, and also I am honestly slightly curious as to exactly whether or not that the way that I feel is actually even “normal” or not. I truthfully am extremely sorry for my immensely improper spelling and punctuation I normally am not ever that bad, however though I will wholeheartedly admit to you all that at this particular time that I was in the process of typing everything out I was honestly I guess just so incredibly OVERWHELMED with what has been going on for the last 8 months particularly that I really just needed to get everything inside of me all out and be able to have a little venting time in the process of trying to also find a legitimate explanation for the TRUE reason for why that I feel the way that I feel. For whatever reason I can’t seem to shake the feeling in my head as well as my heart that continuing to hold out hope given my past is in a way abnormal I guess you could say, and quite frankly I have wracked my brain day after day trying to understand it all mainly due to the simple fact that I am honestly completely confused as hell trying to find answers. I am seriously very much extremely sorry for the eccentric way in which that I ended up coming across. I truly do appreciate each and every single one of you all for making the attempt and the effort that you have all put forth in order to hopefully be able to actually help me to be able to really understand my dilemma. What you have all done for me I can promise you has definitely meant a great deal to me, because I know that none of you who have made the effort to help me find answers due to the fact that I truly do know that none of you actually “HAD” to respond to my conundrum. Thank you all SO VERY MUCH!!!(:
You ask a good question - why when we are beaten and battered (mentally and/or physically ) do we keep trying again?
It's the hope that some day everything will be OK and we can find happiness, for some that never happens.
If you have found some level of contentment then see it as a victory for you after all the setbacks.
Be happy.
It's the hope that some day everything will be OK and we can find happiness, for some that never happens.
If you have found some level of contentment then see it as a victory for you after all the setbacks.
Be happy.
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