Old Friends/Peers Who You Are Hesitant About Contacting As You Haven’t Spoke In Ages…Just Do It!

[bluefortress]

Do you ever experience something which cheers you up for a moment and it makes you realise how  down you've been feeling for ages. 
 

For example a guy from school messaged me on Facebook, totally out of the blue I haven't spoke for 10 years and even before that we barely spoke at school. He said that he was checking how I am as he likes to do that with people - check if they are ok etc.

We had a conversation and he said he'd keep in contact and said don't be a stranger etc. 

I just thought it was really good of him and no matter how random it was or insignificant it seems it really cheered me up to know that someone was thinking of me lol.

I am always hesitant to contact people I've not spoke to in ages as I worry they will think it's odd but sometimes it can make someone feel better 

[Hazlinny]

Yes, pick up the phone, send an e-mail - it's good to keep in touch no matter how long the interval between last contact. 

[10ClarionSt]

I wanted to contact someone, but I only knew their home address, so I wrote a letter. That was 9 months ago. I also sent a xmas card, but no response to either. I'm not giving up though!

[davebro3]

If you've been out of contact for a very long time you may no longer have much in common & not much to talk about.

I met a couple in the supermarket car park who struck up a conversation, they said they often think about me. At first I didn't even recognise them or know who they were - seems we worked together 20 odd years ago!

[10ClarionSt]

I think it's great that someone, somewhere, may be thinking of you. I always think that.

[Peter Pedant]

Yeah do it....

I can enumerate most of the children in my primary class - and I  have to say the majority say - oh you....( so in fact for example, he DID mean to throw me off the roof of that shed, and I didnt slip)

https://www.francisfrith.com/bridport/memories-of-the-convent_508471550

First class, I was there 1960, and didnt find her so bad....

[Peter Pedant]

and just for the people who go "my school was like that!"

https://www.francisfrith.com/bridport/the-convent-in-bridport_memory-107301

the  nuns learnt us good tho

[barry1010]

Don't do it - you lost touch for a reason

[Peter Pedant]

I didnt want to say that Barry. Chris (BC) have the common experience of a third party saying - "that man knows you - do you want to speak?" - you cant very well say " do you know what it feels  like to be pushed off the roof of a shed?" so I say yeah.

[Peter Pedant]

oh is it time to recall  - 

me, year 1980 : mister wosh-eensky, I notice you have three fingers ( on one hand - the other was OK)

W: yes frost bite, (me) easstern front?

W for it  was he: yes I deserted from  the Red Army and fought for the Germans. ( Me thinks - they were all returned and sent and died in gulags Au 1945. see mininster and the massacres).

Me how come you are still alive ?

W: I walked from Trst ( Trieste, old spelling) to England ( I didnt not say, there is a stretch of water in the way. Kinda like he wouldda got over that one - dinghy probz)

W  an ended up in the west of England. the doctor there 1945. he had an odd name, we thought he was Russian too

Me - oh that was my father, and I am the youngest.....

( fall over each other weeping)

[Tilly2]

An oldie but it makes me smile.😀

Two men were sitting next to each other at Murphy’s Pub in London.

After awhile, one bloke looks at the other and says, ‘I can’t help but think, from listening to you, that you’re from Ireland’

The other bloke responds proudly, ‘Yes, that I am!’

The first one says, ‘So am I! And where about from Ireland might you be?’

The other bloke answers, ‘I’m from Dublin, I am.’

The first one responds, ‘So am I!’

‘Mother Mary and begora. And what street did you live on in Dublin ?’

The other bloke says, ‘A lovely little area it was. I lived on McCleary Street in the old central part of town.’

The first one says, ‘Faith and it’s a small world. So did I! So did I! And to what school would you have been going?’

The other bloke answers, ‘Well now, I went to St. Mary’s, of course.’

The first one gets really excited and says, ‘And so did I. Tell me, what year did you graduate?’

The other bloke answers, ‘Well, now, let’s see. I graduated in 1964.’

The first one exclaims, ‘The Good Lord must be smiling down upon us! I can hardly believe our good luck at winding up in the same place tonight. Can you believe it, I graduated from St. Mary’s in 1964 my own self!’

About this time, Vicky walks up to the bar, sits down and orders a drink.

Brian, the barman, walks over to Vicky, shaking his head and mutters, ‘It’s going to be a long night tonight.’

Vicky asks, ‘Why do you say that, Brian?’

‘The Murphy twins are drunk again.’

 

[Old_Geezer]

Thise I'm no longer in contact with, I no longer know where they are. The others who are in contact even if some are just xmas card list folk. Making any effort to do more won't work. Life moves on and one can't reasonably expect to sustain every relationship, they have fallen back because that was never going to happen. Spread yourself too thinly and no one gets sufficient attention.

[ladybirder]

Thanks for that Tills.

Clarion, have a look on Right Move and see if they have moved.

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/house-prices.html

[drmorgans]

 

There's a chap, part of my group of friends, who I've known since my late teens. We used to have a drink or go to concerts on a regular basis (possibly several a week). Now I see him maybe 2 or 3 times a year. He almost always makes some snide (maybe unintended) comment about me, once or twice about my late wife or father. We don't have a bantery friendship any more and I would happily never see him again.

 

[davebro3]

Also there's often a big difference between men & women. My sisters still sees friends from her school days, those she worked with before retirement & people she's met on various holidays over the years. I don't! 

[naomi24]

People from the past are rarely the people you remember.  Most are best left in the past.

[naomi24]

I think you're right, dave.  I'm still in touch with school friends and people I've worked with or met when travelling.  My husband doesn't do that.

[Vagus]

I'm in close contact with two girls from school, one is from primary school days. We don't see each other often, both live a hundred or more miles from me, but I would call them my best friends.

As someone has said, there's a reason you lose contact with some people, that's just life.

[10ClarionSt]

Thanks ladybirder. They haven't moved. I know for a fact they are still at the address.

Old joke from Bernard Manning:

"Hi Bernard! How are you? Do you remember me? I used to sit next to you in class!"

"No mate. I don't remember sitting next to a bald-headed fat b****** with a beard!"