Age dilemma

[Roughquest]

I was seriously chatted up by a gorgeous young guy last weekend, we got on fantastically, now he is really into me and wants to continue seeing me, trouble is he has only just told me how old he is, he refused many times to tell me his age after i asked, but I like him so much he is 16 years younger than me. Is this bad ? He is really mature for his age, has exceptional morals about life, marriage etc, he has told me what he wants out of life and is looking for a serious realtionship - I am flattered he is so into me, but not quite sure how to handle the age gap, I must admit Im scared, but feeling happy.

[noxlumos]

Keep feeling happy. In my mid thirties I went out with a girl who was 17, which is around the same sort of age gap. Odd other people had problems with it, but we never did as she was an exceptionally mature, wonderful girl and we got on like a house on fire. Eventually we did split up but it was nothing to do with the age difference and we stayed really close friends until she died. If this is the man for you, then don't let a p0xy mishap about not being born in the same year come between the two of you and happiness. Give it a try and stop worrying, and stay happy some people never find love, you are very lucky:)

[jno]

my sister married a man half her age... they had several happy years but I have just heard they've split up. One of the issues was children: she's now too old. Could this become a problem with you? Remember that people do change and younger people change more; you should both think about what you'll be wanting in 10 years, not just what you both want now. I'd go for it, but do think carefully about where you both want it to go; and good luck!

[-Zorro-]

woman are more mature than us blokes so its easier for older bloke / younger birds to work than ther way round.

How old are you Roughquest ?

[mrmnko]

go with your gut instinct my fiancee is 7 years younger than me and shes the only woman who has been younger than me that i've had a relationship with, were getting married next year and have 2 beautiful children. i had a choice before we met there was another woman agin younger than me who was interested but as soon as i met Pam I knew she was the one 4 me. were together just over 5 years. go for it.

[-Zorro-]

is he still at school ?

[888sally888]

I dated a man 12 years younger than me - we split up but it wasnt an age issue.

Go for it - life has no guarantees whatever x

[socasa]

I was facing a similar dilema a short while ago although i'm only two years older than the guy I liked. Sadly I was the immature one letting the age gap count. i see him now and want him so badly it hurts but he's with someone else (who i suspect is older then me!!). What have you got to lose? you may not marry but you might have a wonderful time getting to know each other. better to have loved and lost... Be prepared to have people take a double take when they see him kissing you. Turn your profile and give 'em a better view ;)

[Eve]

I tend to see the person rather than the number.

Go for it if he makes you happy! My record so far is someone 20 years older than me!

See how it goes, you don't have to promise yourself to him just yet ;) It may work out, it may not but if you don't try then you'll never know and could miss out on something wonderful :)

[mizz_sweety]

Huni, this is not for anybody else to decide this is about you end of, however if it helps and you think u and this bloke have a future then go for it, follow ur heart