Following on from Rom's Bad Mood

[Supernick]

Does anyone feel like they never really experience the highs and lows that they think they should? I sometimes get in a bit of a mood, and I sometimes feel quite happy, but these they don't quite feel strong enough for some reason. I also bring this up because I was dumped yesterday for 'not having enough fire in my belly'. It's kind of hit a nerve, because I've been thinking this for a while myself. I'm not depressed, because I'm happy, I enjoy my life and have a good time. But I don't seem to have that fire, the love, hate or fervent passion that others have. I used to when I was a teenager (I'm 26), God I was angsty, but now I just seem very balanced. I haven't had a proper argument with anyone for probably about a year, and I seem to have adopted an attitude of reason, and calmness, like I'm lithiumed up to the eyeballs or something. People have commented on how balanced I seem, and how it's brilliant that I don't seem to let anything get to me, but I'm beginning to think it's not very healthy. I want to feel the big highs and lows, but only seem able to manage a state of generally happy contentedness. Is anyone else like this?

[liquidspace]

Yes I am like this. Its called being content and laid back I think, its probably better than getting manic highs and lows and never knowing where you are from one minute to the next.

[megan07]

Hi Supernick you sound very much like my partner and i describe him as a happy go lucky sort of guy you sound ok to me sweetheart and you keep enjoying your life and you will do just fine love megan

[Supernick]

Very true liquidspace. I wouldn't want to be like somebody with manic depression/bi-polar disorder. It would be awful to be on a massive looping emotional rollercoaster like that. I just wish I wasn't so much of a monorail!!

This girl probably wasn't for me, but it does bother me a bit that people might think I didn't have any 'fire'. At least it's good to know that I'm not weird!

[liquidspace]

You're not weird. I always think maybe I should be a bit more exciting, to have more of an opinion rather than a 'lesse fair' (dont think thats how you spell it!) attitude, people say I sit back and just let things wash over me, I figure you cant change how you are and if someone wants you to, then they aren't right for you.

[OBonio]

I've been pondering this sort of thing recently aswell. But quite the opposite. When I was younger I was horizontal, but as I'm getting older things are really starting to nark me and I'm biting! Maybe I'm just standing up for myself now I'm more experienced and confident in life. Maybe it's the lack of any semblance of a lie in in 20 months. But my view of myself is changing with this new found 'temper' which I've rarely had to deal with before.

To answer the question, it just sounds like you're mellowing out. The litmus test is to download some Val Doonican and see how you get on with it ;o). Nothing to worry about and I wish I will one day return to the lithium state.