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[reception]

I am 48 years old very attractive siz 8. I have been going out with a guy who is 48 also for the last 8 years, they were tough years I left him many times and we got back together again because I needed him for my family. I have no man in my life to help me out so I used him pretended I love him. I have been honest and loyal to him. My culture forbids me to hav an affair so all this has been kept secret, he is black. Last week while sitting in his car to go to Piza I was talking to my daughter on the cell phone, (my son was also in the car) he the boyfriend accused me of talking to another man, since that day I have received many text messages from him accuseing me and saying I am a cheat. my kids are over 25 years old and I am now very fed up of this man but my son who is a hand ful may need a fatherley figure in his life so I hang on to this man for support. My life is a borring and a mess. My son is going through a problem with the police and my husbend has not spoken to me for 15 years this man I am seeing has sent me 15 text messgaes all begining with "U" DID THIS AND U DID THAT. am I so unlucky?? am I going to live this way for the next 15 years or so before I die. ??

[B00]

Yes, with any luck you will!!

What on earth has you being a size 8 got to do with anything?

You've admitted that you don't love him and that you're only using him, so I'm sorry if I sound harsh but you are getting exactly what you deserve.

[Reverandfunk]

Jackanory

[Pippa68]

Yes you will..unless you get out of the relationship.

Leave this guy and let him find someone else. Do something good for him for once!

[HJT40]

"I have no man in my life to help me out so I used him pretended I love him. I have been honest and loyal to him"

Sorry but I note a huge contradition here.

It has nothing to do with luck you have put yourself in this situation. Single parents are quite capable of bringing up children on their own.

You made the decision on how your life should be.

[smudge]

You say: "I have no man in my life to help me out, so I used him, pretended I love him".

You then say "I have been honest and loyal to him".

Sorry but that doesn't add up! How can you pretend you love him, then say you've been honest to him? I wouldn't call that honesty!

Hope you can eventually sort your life out - bearing in mind 'honesty' is the best policy....

[smudge]

Snap HJT40 - your post wasn't there when I started mine!

[tigwig]

seen as you are so very attractive and a mere size 8 I am sure you won't have any trouble finding someone else they would just have to be as shallow as you are

[gina32]

48 year old and an attractive size 8, yes so your point on this is???

[Ice-Maiden]

The choice is yours, but I don't think this relationship is right for you. You're hanging onto this man as a fatherly figure, but he sounds jealous. I think it might be better to end the relationship before you feel even worse about yourself, and concentrate on your son. You sound an attractive woman, so you have time yet to meet someone who you genuinely care for, but rather than think about having a partner in tow, your kids needs come first. Good luck.

[redcrx]

What example are you setting your children? OK you think your son may need this man as a 'fatherly figure' but does he really need advice from a man who treats women this way?

Youre being selfish by the sounds of it and risking your children growing up think this is right.

[mycats]

I didnt realise the russian culture forbids affairs lol and erm why mention that "he" is black??

[reception]

great answers!! you all are so honest people woH!!!
I am doing what women have been doing for millions of years wake up and smell the coffee.

[linda65]

I dont think you are gonna find anyone who loves you more than you love yourself!!!!

48 very attractive size 8.....???? and ?????means nothing im afraid