How dya break off from a non relationship with a really nice lad? Help !

[torn-in-two]

Hey, You might of seen my other question just from the other day " Am i being stupid? "..

Well I have come to the conclusion I need to stop messing this fella i have been dating ( but am not with ) about..

The problem however... This fella is soo nice, we have never had a fight, he makes me laugh... and is always there for me and likes to have a gud time with me...

I know what your thinking... Sounds like a great fella why wud yeh wanna stop dating him?!.. But to be honest he is the complete oppostite of my normal kinda fella I would be attracted to, which i thought might of been a good move for change.... but it really wasnt !!
I don't feel much of that kinda spark? he's more of the friend type... and don't get me wrong i kind've like him but not very much.

How do you stop dating a fella you just wish you were very much so liking but just can't?

I'm sure everyones been there at some point, I really need help with this... please and thanks :)

xxxxx

[WhiteBear]

can i have him? :)

its nice to have a fella whos there when u need him. xxx

im serious..... can i have him? ... xx

[onlyme26]

you are doing the right thing, but as for how to break up with him!! no idea!! im terrible at stuff like that, i remember seeing a guy once ( many moons ago) and i started a row on purpose just so i could finish with him :o( i know i know cruel!! i was about 16 tho!! and i had my heart broken a few times since then, tho from experience ( of being dumped)you gain a lot more respect from being honest, just tell him the truth and apologise, he should understand and at least appreciate your honesty

good luck xxxxx

PS: so are you gonna get back wiv yr Ex ? hehe

[daisycup]

I was in this situation about a month ago. I was just honest in the end. I just told him that I really liked him but my feelings were not there a 100% and it wasn't fair on me or him to carry it on.

Good luck!

[lil75]

I understand where your coming from...however if you stay with him, you will spend your time thinking about "that spark" that is clearly missing, and may even end up resenting him...do the right thing by him and yourself

[SazzyC0]

This happened to me, I was trying to go for someone 'nice'. He liked me loads ad he just started to annoy me more and more by being too 'nice' to me. I ended up getting agitated and not being very nice to him. Best just to tell him otherwise you might end up doing the same.

Tell him you arent ready for a relationship and just want to be friends.

[The Sherman]

You women scare the shi ite out of me!

I was watching cracker last night and he said that put a woman in a room full of serial killers and she'd fancy them all!

loco!!!!!!

[torn-in-two]

WhiteBear - He's someones catch just not mine, maybe he's yours tho? :D

I know its the right thing and in all honesty to " onlyme16 " as childish as it is... I have tried starting an arguement... He lets me win everytime and dosnt put up a fight would you believe !!

And nice can be too nice, its not that my ex was a " ******** " or a " bully ", We just stopped getting on for a while yeno? Meh i played my own bad part in the relationship but in all honesty he did do wore... alot worse.

But to forgive is to move forward...

But how the hell do I break it to this lad? :(

xxxxx

Thanks for the answers and keep them coming... Thanks !!

xxxx

[888sally888]

Just be honest about how you feel - tell the truth!

[terambulan]

Maybe he feels the same as you (not compatible) but keeps the companionship till there's another distraction.

Take him to places where you & he may find someone else.

[cazzz1975]

just be honest, the longer you keep this going on the more hurt he is going to be. whatever happens he will be hurt and upset, its never going to be pleasant but its easier to do it now than leave it a long time with him investing more of his feelings into a union that will never be

[topogigo]

How about stop analysing it all, tell him straight and go and find someone you want to be with, for the sake of the other person and yourself. Always remember that people get hurt by being lead on and encouraged to make bonds that are worthless in the end.
I would say grow up, that may help, don't try and make out you are a victim here.
You are either quite dumb or oblivious to what happens when you interact with someone, i do feel sorry for him as you seem to be quite callous even if you do try to giggle it off.

[torn-in-two]

I know the longer it goes on the more hurt he's going to be thats why im trying to look for a way, theres never a nice way of breaking it off with someone but some ways are better then others...

As for me being callous, If i was callous I wudnt be on this looking for advise on how I can hurt him the least i would simply just say Here its off...

See the problem is a do like him, just not enough as i know he likes me and I don't want him to get anymore serious then it is... And i have noticed he is, which is why i wanna stop it before it goes any further...

Thanks for the advise, keep it coming :D

xxxx

[Sgt.Rock]

He should be happy to get rid of a nutter like you.

[confused84]

torn in two can i just ask where your from??!!!

[torn-in-two]

I'm from wales, why?