>>>>>Why do people and newspaper articles etc always say then that elderly people can't pass occasional money gifts to relatives.
When a person dies, if their estate is worth more than £325,000 (very easy if a house is included) then anything above £325,000 is taxed at 40%, which is Inheritance tax.
So if an estate is worth say £425,000 you may pay £40,000 in inheritance tax (40% tax on £100,000).
One way to try to avoid inheritance tax is to give your money away before you die, but of course the tax people dont like the idea of that, so they will tax any gifits given to you before that person died.
You are allowed to give away £3000 a year, but if you die in the first year the person who got the £3000 has to pay tax on it, if you die two years after giving the money away you pay a bit less tax on it, and this carries on for 7 years, a bit less tax each year, where after 7 years you pay no tax in it.
So if someone DOES give you a gift of £3000 then you should really keep some of it back in case the person dies within the first 7 years. The tax people dont ask for all the money back, but they may make you pay tax on it.
This only applies if the extate is above £325,000 which is not the case in your situation.