Why Is This Boy Slapping Me On The Butt And What Should I Do About It?

[Curiousboy99]

Hi,
I am 14 years old turning 15 in a month and I am in year 9. Throughout the year this boy in my class had been slapping me on the butt outside of class in the playground, sometimes in class and in the change rooms during sport. I am straight which he knows, and did have a girlfriend quite recently. He used to have a girlfriend not long ago as well and I can't imagine him being gay. Even though some of the other guys call me names such as babe and gay none of them slap me on the butt except for that one guy. Also he is 15 and in my year 9 class too. I don't know if he is bi, gay or straight. I feel like I need to say something to him but I have no clue what it is I should say or ask. By the way he isn't the nicest person in my class either. He isn't very well behaved most of the time and he is a bully especially to me. He calls me things, takes my stuff and is just plain rude usually in front of his friends. When he slaps me he tends to say things like "you like that don't you", "your a babe", "I would go out with you", you have a nice soft ass" and loads of other stuff just like those. Is it normal that he is slapping me on the butt? I don't know whether he is being serious or just a complete idiot. Please help me!

[Old_Geezer]

You say he is a bully, perhaps he just thinks it funny and you let him do it.

You say you don't have a clue what to say to him. How about, "Stop that" aor "What did you do that for ?"

Ultimately it doesn't matter whether he does it to bully or to bond, if you don't like it tell him and stop it. And if he won't, tell a teacher.

[EcclesCake]

I completely agree with the advice from Old Geezer.

However, the suggestions from Jordy Boy and TWR are irresponsible and foolish.

[Peter Pedant]

No he is not being serious and yes he is being a jerk

you are going to have to sort it out somehow
either yourself
or with the help of someone in the school ( teacher )

[Tilly2]

He's doing it because you are allowing him to do it. Tell a teacher.

[TWR]

Irresponsible or not, it works, it did for me many many years ago.

[Curiousboy99]

Well the thing is he does it too a couple of other boys in my class but very rarely and when its just him and me and his friends aren't around he can actually be nice so maybe he is simply trying to look cool in front of his friends. Also everything is very sexual to him because he is always raving on about sex, and making sexual jokes especially about males. Still, thank you for the replies Old_Geezer and Jordyboy9.

[boxtops]

I agree - he's just goading you. Ask him how he'd like it if you did the same to him, particularly in front of his mates. He's just trying to look big and clever in front of his friends (and failing miserably).

[Peter Pedant]

O god takes me back
jerks in class - you cant get away from them
( unlike at college or uni )

[boxtops]

Just a thought, curious - are you gay, or is he just pretending that you are, for a "laugh"? Not that it should make any difference, he still shouldn't behave like this, but if you came on to him, what would he do? Next time he says "I'd go out with you" say "OK then!"

[Sqad]

LOl......I agree with boxy........ask him out.

But, (sorry no pun intended) if you don't want to ask him out, then what IS the big deal about another male slapping your and other's butts.

Live with it.

[RATTER15]

Just ask him if he is gay, see how here reacts. If he says yes, then just say "well Im not, so stop doing that"

[Sqad]

Ratter

\\Even though some of the other guys call me names such as babe and gay \\

I just have the feeling that our Curiousboy, may well be gay.

[RATTER15]

Sqad //what IS the big deal about another male slapping your and other's butts.

Live with it.// Stupid comment!!

Why should anybody have to live with it? you maybe happy having your a$$ slapped by anoth man but most guys arent. if another guy slapped my ass he would certainly not have any desire to do it again!

[RATTER15]

Sqad, he says he is straight!!

[Old_Geezer]

I suspect violence as a means to strop it only works if you are the sort of person to whom acting in a violent manner isn't difficult. If you are acting/bluffing you will be half hearted about it, and that would be obvious. The chap may well be gay but I don't think the cause is that important. It's not just locker room messing about among consenting participants, it's effectively a 'power grope' against someone who is not sure how to stop being the victim.

[Old_Geezer]

I always wonder if these types of threads are wind-ups, but assume one here they may help someone. Either the OP or later someone who comes looking for a similar issue.