It’S Been A Difficult Day .

[Jenarry]

no question,just need to get it off my chest .
I stopped being friends with my best friend 5years ago after she behaved very badly on the lead up to and on my wedding day . she couldn’t have been less interested in the fact i was getting married . it was all very disappointing .
i don’t have anything to do with her but hear the odd thing thorough mutual friends or on the dreaded Fb . that she’s had twins and getting married herself.
well today was her wedding day and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it . wondering how it’s gone . whether she’s had a perfect day .
I’ve forgotten about it at times when spending time with one friend and another and my hubby and son but at quiet times it’s been driving me mad. :( i don’t regret not being friends anymore, it just still leaves a bad taste in my mouth that she thought so little of me to carry on the way she did on what was a very important day of my life . :(

[JimF]

"whether she’s had a perfect day"

Are you secretly hoping that she hasn't?

[ummmm]

I wouldn't waste my energy tbh.

Sounds like she was jealous of you.

[Mamyalynne]

Difficult to accept that she couldn't be happy for you and keep your friendship alive - afraid you have to accept she's moved on.

Sad ((HUG))

[Baldric]

If you are no longer friends why does it matter?

[TonyV]

You need to just let it go Jenarry IMO must be hard too do but if you haven't had any contact for that long then not much you can do.

[Prudie]

I have always found when friends and family spoil or put a dampener on special events it's almost always borne out of jealousy. Try not to fret about it.

[Rosie29]

Even though you are hurt is it at all poss8for you both to get together and talk about what went wrong? Could you make the first move ?

[TonyV]

Sending you some AB hugs as well xx

[Rosie29]

Possible - sorry

[Cloverjo]

I know how you feel. I had a friend like that. Time to let it go.

[Theland]

Water under the bridge. Send her a card with best wishes.

[Calicogirl]

Tbh my one sister in law HATES that I'm married to Mr Cal, she has been an uber *** about it, moaning they weren't invited (no-one was), that he married me for nefarious purposes (no he didn't), saying it won't last (yes it bloody well will) etc etc etc, you name it she tells me her opinion on it (unsolicited) and if it wasn't for the fact that she's with my brother I'd have distanced myself considerably. That being said if something nice happens to her I'm just happy for her, because to be anything but would diminish me, so just if you can let it go, and wish her well. x

[jourdain2]

Agree with Theland. It's hard, but don't make things worse and leave the door open to make things better.

[Tilly2]

Theland's suggestion is a good one. Be charitable.

[Jenarry]

Rosie ,I’ve thought about it as we were such good friends for years but i think that ship has sailed .
she’s obviously not bothered .all it would’ve took was an apology after she’d upset me back then but she was too busy insisting she hadn’t done anything wrong and she’s made no moves since .
and tbh she’s not really a person i’d want in my life . she’s expects a lot but gives little back .
I have much nicer close friends now .

[Baldric]

Then just maybe "Send her a card with best wishes" is not such a good idea then ;o)

[Jenarry]

thankyou for the kind words and hugs everyone .
I don’t think i could bring myself to send her best wishes sadly .

[Tilly2]

Why are you so consumed by it if you have decided she is not worth the worry?

[Jenarry]

No Baldric ,exactly .

[anneasquith]

You’ve not had contact for 5 years, she hurt your feelings, why are you even bothered about her ?