Childish Girl

[salisbury]

My ex is being really childish, i posted her belongings and she received them today.......even tho she is with a new guy, she text me (a mate must have given her my new number) saying "i thought we were gonna meet up to exchange belongings?"

i really DONT want to meet up as she will try to mess my head again, this is the first time ive felt POSITIVE since SHE DUMPED ME.

anyway i spent 20quid getting her things in the post to her and i asked very nicely iff she could send me my suit and belongings from her house....

she said NO if you want them it will have to be on my terms and that means you coming to my house to get them !!!

This is just so childish and unfair, the suit was pretty expensive and I suppose I could live without it, but why is she being so petty if she has got a new boyfriend, I just wanna move on wityh my life like she has but its like she doesnt want me to, and doesnt like the idea of me being positive and moving on

[country_boy]

here we go again... yawn

[Hermit]

Don't allow her to mess with your head. Just go to get your stuff, get it and then get out without saying much more than hello. Whatever she has planned in terms of talking you round etc will just fall flat on its face and you will leave with the upper hand. (Unless of course, you have upset her and she is trying to get you round so the new bloke can give you a slap). You might feel bad at first, but after a while you'll be glad you did it. Chin up, my friend, you are well on the way to recovery, good 4 you.

[ktlou]

you're jibjab aren't you???

seriously mate, i wouldn't go anywhere near her house! Get a mate to pick up your stuff, or go without it - whats a suit really?? If you go there you're gonna be back at square one with getting over her. The longer you can avoid seeing her, the easier it will be to move on. Forget her and her childish ways, you can do a lot better than that. Don't reply to her text messages, just pretend they never arrived and move on with your life. You aren't together anymore so she has no control over you - let her run her new mans life and not yours!!

[JustSia]

If you wanna move on go and get your suit and stop being so petty and childish yourself.

[Backdrifter]

ktlou's got it spot-on in my opinion. If you feel you can live without the suit and the other bits, then just draw a line. Don't bother about it - the moment you ring her doorbell, you're playing her game. And again, exactly right - just ignore all future texts from now on, do not reply to any communication, and if she happens to confront you by phone or in person, be upbeat - don't make like you want to chat, just be positive without inviting any friendship - this will signal to her you've moved on. From what you've told us, you've already been the bigger person - keep it that way.

[~Wingnut~]

I say go to her house and pick them up, just be happy and carefree, if she asks what you have been up to, either make something up ie. Started going out more, joined an evening class etc.. you get the drift. Don't show her that your at all bothered about being there, say you only sent her stuff as you have been SO busy going out etc.. that you figured it was best to send them so she would get them sooner rather than later (or say you new girlfriend doesn't like seeing her crap round the place!)

Just show you don't give 2 hoots, pick your stuff up and cut all ties, get a new mobile number (or block hers) and tell your mates that they are NOT to give it to her.

Failing all that, write the suit off, change your mobile number and forget about her.

Best of luck, please try to move on for your own sanity :o)

[zara 4]

She wants to be in your life,she's wanting to be centre of attention,to you,or anyone else who will allow it,by asking the question on here she's getting it,take a deep breath and either go get it,say goodbye and cut her out your life for good,or tell her 's0d the suit,sell it and buy yourself a life' and go start yours!!

[4getmenot]

Go get your suit, do as she says just to shut her up, then thats it final, over and done with, You making a big situation out of nothing now. Please move on. I;m sure you can face her, its been 2 months now and as you said its the first time you've felt positive. although hating all arrogant men is not what I call positive. Please Please please lets not here any more about your ex girlfriends. She is being petty so dont lower yourself to her standards and go get your suit if you cant then forget it.

[Backdrifter]

Hang on... "Please let's not hear anymore about your ex girlfriends?" So is this a serial thing? Is that what's behind the 1st reply in this thread? If so, maybe it's salisbury and not the ex who's the attention-seeker. Salisbury, please don't be yet another one of these people who revel in breakup dramas because it makes them feel like they're in an episode of eastenders or Hollyoaks or something.

[4getmenot]

backdrifter we have tried. he used to be called jibjab if you search his name you'll know how much we've tried.

[ktlou]

Backdrifter - as per the first line of my reply, I'm fairly certain that salisbury is actually jibjab, who came here a few months ago after the break up - since then we've heard quite a lot about this ex-girlfriend and it's basically the same thing all the time!

jibjab/salisbury - hun, go on holiday or something, get away from the ex and get yourself a much better life without her. I'm not being horrible about you btw, its just that this seems to have been going on for a really really long time with us all giving you the same advice!!

[Octavius]

jibjab / jaredwillias / salisbury.

A suit is a material possession that is easily replaced. Perhaps when you go to the suit shop to get a new suit, you should pop next door to the life shop.

[Hermit]

Very good Octavius -Suit: material possession. How droll.

[Octavius]

Unintentional, but I'll take the credit.