older girls with younger guys

[figwit]

okay... I am struggling with something that I've been trying to get my mind around for awhile.
the whole deal with older women going for younger men, the whole ashton/demi ordeal...

I've fallen for a guy 2 years younger than me, (which really isnt all that bad and not nearly as drastic as the 20 something years that the celecbrity couple has got between them...) but I still somehow have an issue with this whole thing.

what is the lowdown with this sort of thing? is it totally wrong? is it totally fine? does the public encourage/discourage it? does it matter? is it hot? not? how big of a part does age actually play?

as many thoughts, insights, and replies as possible, I would love everyones complete feedback please...

[hammerman]

Personally, if you're two consenting adults.....it's got nothing to do with anyone else. If you want it, go for it.

Two years in nothing so enjoy your romance. There's plenty of women who'd love to be in your position.

Good luck

[maxi29]

Someone I was at uni with went out with a woman 12 years older than him and raised a family with her. I hear through the grapevine that they're still together, 25 years later. I remember that it caused a bit of a stir at the time as it was decidedly not conventional.

A friend of mine was always attracted to women considerably older and right from teenage years went out with women 15 to 20+ years his senior - surely it's whatever turns you on. I must say that every women I've been out with has been younger than me.

One happy note: a good friend of mine is going out with a guy 11 years younger than her and just a few weeks ago had a baby with him: they seem blissfully happy together.

If he makes you happy, then there's nothing wrong.

[fat rascal]

if you'v e found happiness figwit.....enjoy it.... 2 years is nothing.. be happy!!1

[spk]

2 years seriously shouldnt bother you- if you are happy- stop analysing and enjoy your life. Who cares what the public think, as long as you and your partner and yourself are happy who cares what everyone else thinks. Get a hobby and stop obsessing about something so silly ! :O) x

[unruliejulie]

2 years is nothing. Don't worry about it and certainly don't let anyone else worry you. Happiness is hard to find sometimes, so grasp it with both hands. Age is only a number after all, its how you feel that counts. All the best X

[cameo]

as everyone else says, 2 years is nothing.
it really doesn't matter, it's only 2 years, people probably wouldn't even notice, and if they did i really don't think they would care.
it really isn't a big deal, you say you 'still have an issue with the whole thing'. i think you need to stop worrying about it, life is too short.

go for it !!!

[Hellion]

I'm 3 years older than my husband, my sister is 2 years older than hers, my Aunt is 1 year older than hers, my grandmother was a year older than my Grandfather, my Great Grandmother was 6 years older than her husband, it's a tradition that we have discovered goes back 200 years. None of us has ever been divorced! Most people have no idea I'm older than my husband and many assume I'm younger. Figwit GO FOR IT!

[scoobydooby]

I would guess that you're probably still quite young yourself? The age difference to women (when the man is younger) seems much more of an issue when the woman herself is still quite young with no marriage behind her/kids etc. As we get older and wiser it is no longer an issue. Have fun and enjoy!

[dot.hawkes]

my ex husband was 5 years older than me and it made no difference to how our marriage worked out, why would him being younger have changed anything, we are who we are, personality and bloody mindedness are the same at any age. We have escaped the restrictions of convention imposed on our society by the Victorian hypocrites and the Edwardian stoicism, why do people frown on other people's
choice in life?
p.s. what does 'complete feedback' mean?

Dotty
xxxx

[Shadowthief]

I wouldnt let it worry you in the slightest as long as your both happy thats the main thing as for what anyone else thinks its nothing to do with them, go for it.

[mccfluff]

my last bf was 6 years younger than me, the age thing never was an issue with us or for any of our friends

[xjenaferx]

HOW superficial is it that 2 years would even count, let alone bother you. SO... THE LOWDOWN IS: Maybe you should look at the bigger picture? Maybe it bothers you because he is not where you'd like him to be financially?or socially maybe? Maybe he's just a damn fine piece of ass! At any rate?
WHO CARES what the public thinks. You are completely obscure in your thinking. Yesss... its truuuuue. Materialistic peeps doooooo exist!
Argh.... people who have someone and cannot appreciate that they have someone? Frustrate the hell outta me.

[xjenaferx]

PS..... I obviously need to get laid hehehe

[dot.hawkes]

LMAO at xjen! You call figwit superficial!!!!!!!!!!! lol love it well done!!!!!!!!!!

[Lore]

hiya figwit,
I'm 7 years older than my fiance, I have to admit there have been times when I have questioned the age gap, but only in the sense of what others my think and why would he want to be with me instead of someone his own age?

The reality is we're mean't to be!
In my eyes, he could have anyone yet he's still here with me. So I guess for all the times I've felt insecure and worried about the possibility of this not working in terms of the age gap has just been a waste of time.

we're expecting our first baby in November. Life is great!! :)
Good luck

[boobesque]

my other half is five years younger than me, we moved in together after 4 months as we fell in love very quickly, other people said it wouldnt work as he was too young (19 at the time) and yet we have lived together for 2 and a half years and are expecting a baby in september, we are planning to marry and he is a dad to my 7 year old son.
Age is just a number, other peoples opinions mean nothing if you care for someone enough and you both feel the same then it will work!
If you have an issue with it then maybe someone younger isnt right for you as i didnt even think about the age difference between me and mr boobs as the connection was there from the start!

[noxlumos]

I had a 17 year old girlfriend in my 30's, and when I was 28 went out with a lady in her 50's. I have never found that age is anything but a number and remained on excellent terms with both of them.People are either right for you or they are not, age is of no relevance whatsoever. My wife is 38 (I'm 45) but I'd have loved her just the same had she been 18 or 80.

[Litchick]

My husband is five years younger than me. We've been married for six years, dated for three before. I think 2 years is okay! :)