miscarried last sept been trying to get pregnant ever since

[confused gal]

im so confused. Last september i misscarried at 9 wks they cudnt find the babys heartbeat. The doctor told me to try again in 2-3 months time, so we have been trying to conceive ever since but nothing. Last time i got pregnant (which was when i misscarried) i got caught straight away from stopping the pil, i dont understand y i havn't this time. My periods vary from 36 days to 39 days but last months it was 50days. They are abit messed up or is this normal???we are having sex every 2-3 days so IF i am ovulting i will get caught??i feel so upset when i see pregnant ladies or young mums with about 3 children, i just keep thinking when is it my turn. my friend says that i must be able to get pregnant coz i did before? Every time it comes to the end of my cycle i keep looking at my breasts to see if there different or any other signs that cud say im pregnant, imgetting paranoid. wot shud i do other than try and relax? please help very confused?? thanx for listerning xx

[tigwig]

Hi very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. You have really answered your own question in saying just relax. If you are having sex every 3 days you are probably just been unlucky I am sure you will fall on soon. Stress and worry won't be helping so please just relax it will happen again. Trust me enjoy your peace while you can!! You could always buy an ovulating test but then they can make it scientific instead of enjoyable! It will happen when you least expect it and aren't worrying so try to calm down, good luck and take care.

[FUZZYBEE]

Sorry to hear of your loss, my sister had exactly the same as you and she was told to stop trying soo hard. Have sex less frequently because it's all about quality and not quantity, the more you have sex the sperm quality and strength (as such) is diminished, relax and do it less and the quality is better.
good luck sweetie your time will come.
fuzzy

[confused gal]

thanx for replying. i will try and relax more. has your sister conceived? do u think that u can be pregnant without having any pregnancy signs??

[lilyfrog]

i confused gal,

I am so sorry to hear of the bad time you have had of it, but I am going to repeat what you have already heard and tell you to relax and enjoy yourself.

It took me and Mr Lilyfrog 2 and 1/2 years to conceive and then it happened when we really weren't expecting it. Remember every pregnancy is different so when you do fall pregnant again it is unlikely to be anything like the last time. In other words it will take longer to happen, your breasts will feel different and this one will stay put (at least for 9 months)

Good luck and happy bonking!!

x

[spanner7853]

sorry to hear your news. It took me a year to fall with my first baby then lost it at 16 weeks, it took me another year exactly to fall again only to lose it at 7 weeks. I am now pregnant again 25 weeks but it still took me 7 months with this one. I do think all the worrying etc doesnt' help and it will happen in time. My fertility doctor who I didnt need in the end said 'try not to think about it' which is easier said than done when you want a baby. However I wasn't willing to give up and it happened eventually. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Book a weekend away enjoy it, think about anything but babies and I bet it happens when you least expect. it. x

[leewayne]

Im a young mum with 2 children but i do good by my children,but i know what you mean with some young mums.I would just say relax,dont stress or think about it too much,be like rabbits!!!! If after a year nothings happened then see your gp but im sure everythings fine and nothing to worry about,your time will come.Just relax....

[aims1202]

Have you been on this website? www.babycentre.co.uk. they have lots of advice that might help.
Its true that stress and worry can actually delay ovulation and therefore your period. This makes it harder to know when your ovulating. If you have periods then you are ovulating, reducing stress could make them more regular.
I know it must be so hard with everything you've been through, but try to be positive about it. Keep believing you will get pregnant. When you get your period instead of thinking how bad it is, think its great because it means that you are ovulating and you have a chance next time.
I hope it happens soon for you. Good luck.

[pixiepie]

i lost my first baby at 8 weeks and it took us over 3 years to concieve again. in the end we just booked a holiday and said s@d it lets take a break for 6 months. Then found out 2 months later i was pregnanat with twins. Was excited but gutted we couldnt go on our holiday to caribean (sp) as i would be to far along. My advice is relax and keep busy. Good luck let us know how you get along. im now the proud mum of 3 boys and a girl

[Compostella]

You sound exactly like we did when we were in your situation last year.

We found out that we had miscarried at the 12 week scan and were devastated. I found comfort on here hearing about others who had gone on to have perfectly normal pregnancies after such an event.

So if it helps, we misscarried in May and then found out we were expecting again in October. And six weeks ago we had a 10lb 10oz baby boy.

My advice to you is just lazily keep trying, stop making it too scientific. It will happen, you have proved that all the plumbing is in good order, its just a matter of time. IT WILL HAPPEN, YOU'LL SEE.