Is great oral sex enough to keep a man coming back for 7 yrs

[freehugs_07]

This question is for the men but I would like to hear from women who may have been in a similar situation... Men, Would great sex or oral sex keep you coming back to a girl for 7 yrs? It's this guy that i been dealing with for 7 yrs and although we had a short relationship when we were young, he keeps coming back and we havent had a relationship since. he has lots of girls that will do whatever he wants but he says he loves when i perform oral sex on him. Do you think thats why he has been sticking around? He has wanted a relationship with me before but i was insecure about myself at the time and didnt want to see him. He's also told me that he loves me. I love him with all my heart and I want to make him feel good, BUT I DONT WANT TO BE USED..HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

[Richkent]

From a man! - If I was him and I know lots of girls who will do what ever I want to me I would be quite happy with them! The end of the day sex is sex whoever gives it to you. If I had an old girlfriend I keep going back to time and time again I would deep down be wanting something more than just sex, but if you had more going on than just sex, he wouldnt be able to get what ever he wants from the other girls. At the moment he can see you, spend time with you and get what he wants from you, and still be to see other girls! .....So He's got sex on tap, and he gets to be with you as if you were an item. And still play around. It might be hard but turn him down and see what happens. Im guessing he would start wanting more than just sex from you then.

[andy-hughes]

Some men simply can't get enough sex from as many people as possible - simply because they can.

Would any mature sensible worthwhile man keep coming back just for good sex? No.

How do you know all these women wil do what ever he wants? Because he says so?

You have to ask yourself, if he wants a relationship with you, why doesn't he spend time with you as a person,being with you, taking you out, and not just using you (and that is what this is) for sex.

You sound an inscure person, and it sounds like this man is taking advantage.

Find a decent guy who wants you for you, and sees sex as a part of a relationship, not the relationship itself.

Loose this man - he is not helping you to get over your issues, and he is taking advantage.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, short answer yes, long answer no but...
Any sex given to a man will keep him coming back, especially if your good at it...

[tiny e.a]

The only way you can find out if his feelings for you are anything more than sexual is to refuse him oral sex explaining that you'd still like to spend time with him but aren't willing to do so by giving him any sexual favours. If he still makes time to come and spend time with you then it shows he does like you, if he doesn't then it shows he is using you. Say no and don't go back on your word until you are absolutely sure how he feels! You can do it!

Also, finally realising his feelings either way will allow you to move on with your life, either by starting a relationship with him or by moving on from him and paying attention to differnet people, who you might just find you like more than him!

[johnlambert]

From a mans point of view:
A free, no strings bj certainly would keep me coming (no pun intended) back for more, of course it would
Q. What's the diffrence between an egg and a blow_job?











A. You can beat an egg, but you cant beat a blow job

[gina32]

i think youve answered your own question,I DONT WANT TO BE USED, which i think it exactly what is happening, get rid and find someone who wants you for you and not just for the sex you can give him, value yourself higher than that

[Shadow Man]

Have some self respect woman!!!! You may have "feelings" for this man but he is clearly using you. I imagine he says the same thing to all his other women. To him you are little more than a prostitute but with the added advantage he doesn't have to pay you.

Stop seeing him now, before you catch some nasty disease, learn how to respect yourself, and find yourself a decent chap who would appreciate your obvious oral skills in a two-way relationship where your emotional needs can also be met.

[Le Chat]

Why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free?

[arty7774]

I would certainly keep coming back.

[johnutar]

or even why sell your car and walk before buying another.

[shazzzz]

well freehugs you have been giving this man a bj ,for seven years of course he will tell you he loves you. i notice you havent been having full sex with him ,my old lodger would tell me if he thought they were ugly he would let them give him a bj the girl around the corner from the local used to do it with ice cubes in her mouth, the pub was quite empty once word got round.till the ice ran out.anyway if hes been around you dont know what hes caught, on his travells.think more of yourself in future

[taperface]

If you're always available to give him whatever pleasures - why should he stop seeing you? You're demeaning yourself - and deluding yourself if you think anything further'll happen. If you're not in a steady relationship after 7 years, you're NEVER going to be. Why waste time with this man?