parental responsibility order

[west ham fan]

My son has got parental responsibility oreder and the visitation order he has been told by the courts that he can have his 2 boys (9 & 7) every other weekend, this was agreed by their mother although she was not happy. He went to collect them last Saturday, she told him they were out with their aunt and to go back later, when he went back every one was out, he tried calling on the phone with no answer, this went on for the hole day he went back the next day Sunday, she told him they were to tired to go with him, so he missed out on the week end with them. My question is what can be done to stop this in the future?

[mattie]

I'm assuming that the aunt was her sister, not his, either way that is not acceptable.

Give her a chance to comply with the visitation order next time, and if she makes it difficult again, its back to the solicitors/court.

However, due to the kids ages, he might have to accept that they want to make plans with their mates etc, but if they have, he should be able to drop them off/pick them up if it is meant to be his time with the children.

He could get them a mobile phone, so at least he can talk to them.

[west ham fan]

it was her sister, and my son takes them to their football games and he has sugested that they have a mobile but she says no to that because she does not want the worry of making sure they do not lose the phone. This was not the first time she has caused problems with the visits, she has even missed appointments with the mediator they have said if she misses any more appointments they will ask CAFCASS to get involved. She has even had the boys surname changed to hers without my son knowing anything about it, she is one nasty peice of work

[mattie]

I know of a similar situation to this, the end result was that once the children got a bit older, they saw their mother for what she was and spent a lot more time with their father.

There will come a time when she doesn't have this control over the children, in the meantime, you will need to consult your solicitor again.

[shanx]

why do these women use children as weapons ? its beyond me , when fathers that love their children and prepeared to pay for them are told by me, me , me , mothers. no no no i am in control ,and the child that loves time with his dad , is denyed it , the law is an ass , and the mothers are mental as far as im concerned , oh!! children are better off with the mother , rather than the father and grandparents that realy care about them .yeah right

[shanx]

mattie , when the mother gets her pay off theres no money left for a solicitor , and swaning around in a brand new car , and none on her son , and no intention of spending a penny on him , what can you do ?

[figure]

This is so sad, the children are the ones who lose out in situations like these. Hope your son get things sorted soon, and he is awarded the parental privileges he's entitled to.

[shanx]

i do get upset figure , because we bend over backward to please her , but every time she comes across as , you say black , i will say white , you say white i will say black . we worry about the inviroment he is brought up in , and the distence we cant check everyday .

[shanx]

I can see exactly how flustrating it is for you west ham fan , and i feel sorry for you , but you are not on your own , hope it works out for all off us , take care xx ( sorry about the blast )

[Annlinda]

Your son must act quickly before this situation gets completely out of hand and the length of time since he has had contact with his sons gets longer. Go back to family court, tell them that the mother is not complying with the contact order. They can have her into court and question her as to why she is not allowing contact. They do have the power to imprison a parent who does not conforn to the order but this is a long way down down the road and just the threat of prison can bring the erring parent into line