contraception advice needed...

[MustangLady]

I'm 46 yrs old and 3yrs ago split up with my partner of 19 yrs. I've never had or wanted children so always took pill when in the relationship. I stopped taking the pill 6 months after we split, one of the reasons being as I was getting older the health risks increased. I've starting to get very friendly with a guy & think we may go further with our relationship. Two things on my mind,one of which is contraception... I don't want to rely on him just using condom. Has anyone any suggestions for good reliable contraception that I can use considering my age & are there any health risks for one you suggest? Secondly I do feel nervous about taking relationship further. Feel like it my first time all over again! My ex was my one & only sexual partner & it now been 3 yrs I been single. How long should it be before you think it could get to 'that' stage of sexual activity, I don't want him to think jump into bed with anyone or for him to think I am easy. I really am nervous you can probably tell. I really like this guy & don't want it to be awkward. I even wonder if I'll remember what to do! My ex never had to wear a condom with me, so I don't even know what it feels like to make love with one. I feel really silly asking & its taken a lot nerve for me to write this.

[welshlibranr]

well, don't be worrying!....you'll be fine, but you'll be needing to use a condom with the pill for the first month or so to be protected, it's not the same, but it's ok, and you'll feel confident that you are well protected!...hope it all goes well!......

[Jillius]

Why not get sterilised ? Then you'll have no worries.....just fun !! Condoms are awful and i know what you mean about the pill. Good luck in your new relationship :-)

[MustangLady]

Thank you I will check it out

[MustangLady]

thanks everyone. I'm also considering sterilisation & looking into it.

[roxie_09]

What about a coil? If you didn't want to go through being sterilised. Protects you straight away. Good luck :) x

[MustangLady]

Thank you every one... I am going to look into coil or sterilisation, these might be the easier option.

[mccfluff]

make sure you still use a condom, to start anyway. hope things work out x

[joannie10]

as mentioned condom is advised but also due to being over 40 and having some blood pressure issues I got the mirena coil fitted a few months back. I would recommend it. Good luck with your new relationship, don't worry about things just enjoy!