stretchmarks in men

[filthiestfis]

Im a 25 yr old guy and Ive had stretch marks since I was 14. I first got them on my arms, then shoulders, then legs, then thighs and lastly, stomach. Its a really horrible thing to happen when you're growing up. I became so self conscious that I stopped going to the beach and wouldnt let anyone see them. Yes, they have faded with time, not red now, but silver, but still, they look bad. I have always been a bit overweight, but I guess that it also has to do with genes because my mum and my sister also have them. Anyway, my quesiton is, what do WOMEN think about MEN having stretch marks? I think that its very putting off seeing a bloke with them, it makes me feel so inadequately masculine :( I have been put off having relationships because of this. I know that they will be with me for life :( What do girls think about this? Be honest!

[joanne713]

That wouldnt bother me, as a 23 year old in the dating world, I have seen far worse! Most people have stretch marks, its nothing to worry about. I have loads!

[filthiestfis]

But its normal for women to have them though! But how many men apart from athletes possibly, have them?

[joanne713]

i've seen them on mens backsides, sides of their stomachs etc. Its weird, I know how you feel, I dont have a problem with them on anyone else but there is no way I would show mine to anyone (mine are very bad).

[filthiestfis]

have you had them for a long time or short time? I mean...they will fade, I have only just now become capable of going to the beach because they cant be seen so much.

[Lore]

When you're attracted to someone, you don't get to know about their scars, lumps, bumps and wobbly bits straight away.
stretch marks are no different than any other mark on your body and anyone who is put off by them probably wasn't interested in you as a person to begin with.

You probably think they're a lot worse than they really are.

It doesn't bother me in the slightest and I'm pretty sure most women feel like that too.

[filthiestfis]

well, considering that theyre on most of my body, I do think that I am a bad case. The thing is though that it wasnt caused by a massive gain in weight at all, I am 6 feet tall and weigh 90 kg so I am overweight but not grossly overweight and never have been, its annoying to see blokes much bigger than me without them.

Another point Id like to make is this:

If a girl sees me in public and likes me, she doesnt know that I have them. Imagine the embrassment for me and what she must be thinking when we are about to get down and dirty. I feel like I am giving them a raw deal, you know? Its like, imagine if I was a transexual and the other person didnt know this until they got to unwrap my doodle! They would feel cheated!

[joanne713]

i've had mine for 3.5 years (yes i am a bit overweight too) but it was mainly due to pregnancy. Dont worry hun I am sure you are lovely and anyone that ditches you for stretch marks isnt worth the hassle.

[Lore]

so, if you really liked a girl and you discovered in time that she had quite a few stretchmarks would it change the way you feel about her?

not everyone gets them through weight gain, some people get them due to losing weight believe it or not.

what if it was just a big scar running across your stomach?
you can't help any form of scarring, it happens and that's all there is to it. As I said earlier, anyone who has a problem with such things aren't really worth building a relationship with in the first place.

I think comparing it to a transexual is a little to the extreem to be honest. It's a whole different ball game!

[freak_unique]

I have them and absolutely hate them but wouldnt be bothered if other people had them. Ive known other guys have them too and not even batted an eyelid i was more relieved they had them too so wouldnt think bad of mine! Its like everyone says... if she really likes you she wont be bothered about silly things like that and if she is then shes not worth it at all!
Also stretch marks can be from being active and your skin having lost its elasticity but i have heard you can get creams to mae the skin more supple to stop these from happening.
Stop worrying :)

[filthiestfis]

Thanks a lot girls. The world needs more women like yourselves :o) By the way, I like girls with them because to me they represent what a real woman should look like and not a size 8. Thank you.

[filthiestfis]

Yes-BUT you got them on the arms only!!!! whereas I got them almost everywhere, thats bad!!!!

[Surreygirl30]

i think you sound perfect as you are honey. The world is way too shallow and lets face it life is too short. Ignore anyone who makes negative comments or gives the looks (in my experience these people are never perfect themselves) - and remember everyone is special in their own little ways.

The funny thing is you may not realise it but you sound like such a nice guy. Me i couldn�t care less if you do or don�t have stretch marks - as long as you have a nice smile and treat people right. Ohhh you so need a hug xxx

[foxydivano1]

Hi there Filthiesfis,

You have nothing to worry about - most adults and some teenages have stretch marks - men or women - even supermodels! I know its easier said than done, but try not to worry..... they do fade, as you know. My boyfriend has a few on him bum and tighs, but i dont care, because thats part of him.
If anyone is shallow enough to stop seeing someone because of stretch marks - well they've done you a favour - nobody needs people like that in their lives.

I'm sure you see them as bigger issue than any women would..... the more you get used to this idea, the easier you will find it to meet new ladies....and you will probabley beat yourself up for putting your life on hold for something which really means nothing to that special chick.

Go out and enjoy yourself - as your probabley aware theres nothing you can do to remove them once they've appeared!

[filthiestfis]

Thanks Foxy :o) and *hug back* to Surreygirl30....that makes me feel better about myself! Thanks to everyone.

[claireyfairy]

Have you tried bio-oil? You can get it from Boots and u rub it over the scars and it fades them.

[filthiestfis]

nah the scars have faded now, ive had them for years. But they will always be there. I doubt that the oil is any good for scars that have been there for years but thanks!

[Surreygirl30]

btw i know a few guys with stretch marks - i always remember a guy at college he use to get so down about it and i use to think god how gorgeous he was lol as for girls not liking you because of it - would you really want to date a girl like that? i feel like that about certain things and then i think Christ if a guy was nasty due to my probs then well he could go jump at the end of the day. You should never be made to feel bad about yourself by anybody and if they do then they are not worth knowing - so get on the beach toots and show your gorgeous self off and if anyone is nasty send them to me :-) xx

[filthiestfis]

maybe I should advertise for a date here :o)

[Surreygirl30]

ha ha well you sound nice enough to me - they should do a dating section here. Do you live anywhere near Surrey lol x