Getting over someone

[OooErr]

How have you got over someone before? I think about this person all the time, every day and dreaming about him at night. I know we can't be together right now but i still can't stop thinking about him. It feels like we are so right for each other. I really want to try to move on and try to put this in the past but it is proving so hard. I'm in my 30's and try to keep myself occupied but my mind always ends up on him. Any sensible advice or suggestions appreciated.

[Llamatron]

Sorry, all I can say is that it will fade with time.

I had trouble getting over someone and was convinced I'd go mad. But it has faded. I still get brief flashbacks when I see or speak to her again but the effects are no longer as strong and I recover a lot quicker than I used to. I just wish I could cut her out my life forever - that would help.

I believe the most effective remedy would be to find someone else but I know it's not that simple.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i take he finished with you. Like the person says, all you can do is try to forget. I know its really hard to. Its like walking past some people in a queue and you see them looking at you at talking, then walking past some other people and they do the same. You sit there thinking of it all the time, just wondering what they were talking about. Its on your mind constantly. But then after a while you just end up moving on as your mind gets occupied by something else, like all this rubbish i have just wrote. Honestly though, only time can heal. if you go with someone else straight away, it will only make matters worse...

[spk]

I got over the love of my life, I was with him for 7 years and it really broke my heart when we split up. We split up properly two years ago in march, but we were on and off for 3 years before that because I found it so difficult to really walk away as I loved him very very deeply. It took me a long time, I was like you, first thing I thought about in the morning and last thing I thought about at night dreamed about him, pined for him but it does pass after time.

Seeing them or having lots of contact is a huge no no- just makes it harder, keeping yourself busy, trying not to get nostalgic, and remembering why you cant be together. Some things in life you just have to accept and move on. If its not meant to be nothing you can do about it.

Im pretty much over my ex now, still think about him occasionally and think what if, but no point living in the past you have to move on with your life x

[sam100]

Its the hardest thing to get over someone...you just have to keep your mind occupied or find something to take your mind off it...go and do something that you always wanted to do...good friends are great at this time!

[Englandfan]

Get out and about and if your fit some else will ask you out soon enough, if your not fit then join a gym.
Remember time changes everything, just enjoy life....move on by keeping busy.

[morbidstorm]

I always found that writing my feelings down in letters to him helped, even though I knew I would never send them. In a way it feels like you've got all the things swilling round in your head out and you've told them to someone, but in fact you've just released the pent up emotions.
Even if you have to write a letter every other day, it'll soon become once a week, then once a month....
anyone else ever done this?

[ivor-bigon]

it does fade with time,but he was a chapter in your life.you have now turned the page and are writing new chapters,you must remember this life is a once only opportunity not a dress rehearsel for something better,so make the most of it.when you find someone else you will forget,so chin up and kick some butt.watch out boys her she comes

[~ vortex ~]

you can fall in love with someone in an instant but it can take upto 3 years to get over them (officially)