I need to let off steam...

[curvybird]

Just had a row with Mr.Curvy, top and bottom is, he had a magical childhood and dunt know how lucky he is, whilst I had a nightmare one, having to watch my mum being beaten daily by my drunken father. He even dragged us off the toilet if he wanted to go, and lots of things I don't want to think about. I try and not let it affect my relationship, but Mr. C is the biggest mardy I have ever known, if things don't go his way,even the tiniest things he slams doors and throws things etc, which frightens me. Am I letting my childhood spoil things, and am I giving him a hard time ??

[mccfluff]

sounds like he's being a right tit

[jno]

no. Adults shouldn't throw things, regardless of whether they had good childhoods or bad.

It's possible his childhood wasn't really "magical" at all - it was just letting him do anything he wants, and now he's grown up he finds the real world doesn't work that way.

[PipinHull]

I've done similar in past relationships. Sounds like my dad was no where near as bad as yours but still a bully who would bear a grudge for days because you'd done something like forgotten to rinse out the bath. If I ever find myself in a relationship with someone who is distant or can't forgive/say sorry then it immediately puts me off because it makes me feel like an apologetic child again.

[sherrardk]

He sounds quite spoilt and immature. Just ignore him, he's attention seeking.

[B00]

He was spoilt as a child, now he's still throwing his toys out the pram.

Tell him to grow up and grow a pair while he's at it.

[cazzz1975]

I think jno is right on the money!

[dotty.]

hang on, whatever attracted you to him in the first place must have got lost somewhere, remind him how lucky he was to find you, beat him with a big stick and spend his money, that'll teach him

[4getmenot]

if he's being mardy just let him stew, some blokes like that do it for attention. Maybe his childhood was magical but also maybe he didnt get the attenton then either. Just ignore and live for now xx

[askyourgran]

It seems you have grown up and he hasn't.

[Purple_Popple]

Put him on the naughty step for 5 minutes....then ask him to apologise, hate mardy, attention seeking men!

[sara3]

childhood aside.. his behaviour is ridiculous.

[curvybird]

Thankyou, you have all said things that make sense. I was brought up not to be mardy, I wasn't allowed to be ill or upset, ever. My sister broke her leg playing tennis,but my Dad told her she was being mardy, They didn't take her to the hospital for a week, she still suffers with it now. I could write a book. Wish I could forget it all, but I can't

[stokemaveric]

dont even go down the road of blaming yourself curvybird...he is accountable for his own actions,if he is frightening you then tell him you think things are not working out,its up to you ultimatley of course,he is acting like a right d**khead....

[joeluke]

Best way to deal with someone childish who 'slams doors and throws things' is to completely ignore them

They are attention seeking and are doing it to get a reaction from you

[Purple_Popple]

Your partner should be more understanding of your childhood, I also had a bad time so i do sympathize, it is NOT your fault...his behaviour is disgraceful.

[devilspawn]

your partner is not the right guy for you - he is basically bullying you but more mentally than physically...and once they are in your brain you really are screwed. Tell him to sort himself out, or get out. I know it sounds easier said than done, but you really dont need to be with another person (male or female) who belittles you.

[starone]

I agree with devilspawn. You need someone loving and caring for you, especially after the childhood you had. Someone who will make up for what you went through not put you through some more of the same. He may not be so bad but there is something not right there which you should not tolerate.