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Im not religous its about seeing their faces on christmas morning thinking father christmas has been, although my 11 year old obviously knows its me!.
i dont want them to not see either of us on xmas day, thats why i thought it was a better idea for them to see both of us on the day, but as i said he just wont comprimise, he has always been like this.
I never not let him see them, and its never been set in stone when he has them, he does take the pee out of me he will only let me know which day HE can have them abut a day before! and i can never make any plans to do things with them of on my own, this is what i mean about him still trying to control me, my partner gets so angry about it.
To me its like he tries to justify nto paying any money by giving them present that are OTT and having them on christmas day so he can spoil them , its all very materialistic to me and its unfair to them.