Proposing to my GF!!

[becks89]

Hi i would like your opinions on something!
Im thinking of proposing to my GF in July at my brothers wedding...WAIT i know what your thinking dont do it cos it will steal my bros thunder etc etc etc but i was thinking of taking her into a quiet room at the end of the evening and asking her then...not to tell anyone until a day or 2 later!!
What do you think??
One more thing ....she has always said she will Yes no matter what but she says i must ask her dad for permission!! I have no problem with this except he lives in America and i've never met the man...and the wedding im planning to ask her at is before my trip to america!!
What shall i do??
Thanks!!

[ELVIS68]

Bad move....she will want to tell everyone, ask her after the wedding

I would wait until after your trip to America. Or why not ask her whilst your in America! Certainly wouldn't ask her at another wedding.

[redcrx]

ask her in america. Have a word with her dad, get his permission and then find some way of proposing over there.
Make it a day just for the two of you and not a day thats shared with others

[McNoodle]

Don't ask her at the wedding - it'll look like you've just got caught up in the romance of the day to everyone, ie very cheesy and insincere, even if you know different. Do it on a seperate occasion.

[OBonio]

Exactly what McNoodle said.

[becks89]

thanks guys

[Oneeyedvic]

I'd plan something big in America - get permission from her dad but don't tell her - then arrange a proposal somewhere romantic.

Alternatively, can you ask his permission via telephone / web link?

[becks89]

Thank you guys

[winny]

Dont know about America but dont do it at the wedding. And dont expect her to keep it quiet for longer than 1 minute till you have finished kissing her. With luck she will be excited and want to tell the world.

[Cheekystar]

plan something romantic before July (why wait) ask her dad then plan a great evening, wine, candles nice food etc etc
oh and get a ring that will suit

[WendyS]

However you play it and whenever you propose, please don't give her a surprise engagement ring ! She may absolutely HATE your taste and she'll be too upset to tell you. Remember that she'll hopefully be wearing it for the rest of her life so don't inflict something on her that she's got to pretend to like. Make going to choose it together part of the mutual please to getting engaged.

[skyhi9921]

bad idea to do do it at a wedding especially yr bros as it might look like yr trying to compete
if u wanna do it b4 yr trip 2 america can u not phone her dad