Gay Marriage And A Dilema?

[jd_1984]

Ok here is a scenario to consider.
A catholic woman, regular worshiper and a person or real faith has a brother who is gay. The brother wants to embrace his new legal rite to marry his long term partner and they are currently making plans.
As the sister, how do you tackle this dilema of faith vs conscience.
She adores her brother, but has never agreed with his life choices and sexuality. She does not agree with homosexuality and she worries about the effect it will have on her long standing and un-wavering religious faith. She has however, always stood by him. But can she attend the wedding? Should faith step aside for one day so she can stand and support her brother?
This is the dilema of my GF's friend.

[lozzer50]

If she loves him she should be there to celebrate his marriage im sure she could put her faith aside for a time for this, surely his happiness is what is important

[beso]

She needs to decide what is more important to her.

Should could look at is as far less of dilemma that that faced by the many thousands of pedophile priests who seem to be able to reconcile their faith and behaviour.

[Tilly2]

If her faith is that strong it will not be rocked by going to her brother's wedding. She can ask for forgiveness before she goes, or after she's been.

[Ann]

That would be so difficult for me to consider too, not sure what I would do in those circumstances to go along with my faith and what it teaches or my brother who I love dearly. Thankfully I haven't had to choose but I have nothing but sympathy for those who may have to.

[mikey4444]

Perhaps she should mind her own business jd ! Being related to a person doesn't give anyone to interfere in their private affairs.

Why are religious people so obsessed with what others do in bed ? There is nothing so negative than being told what I can do in bed, by a celibate Parish Priest.

[ummmm]

Isn't it Christian to not judge? Live your own life and let others deal with your God when their time comes.

[jd_1984]

She works with my OH. She simply said it is testing her faith, she is a great girl, but extremely devoted to the catholic faith. What puzzles me is they were both brought up in a catholic household, but he followed his heart which was telling him he was gay during his 20's and he was strong enough to admit that these feelings were stronger than any religion.
But the sister is troubled by it and said to my OH, would she be lying to herself by going. Yes ofcourse she can absolve herself in confession I guess

[naomi24]

Tilly, she could ask for forgiveness for what?

I don’t see the problem in going to the wedding. If Christians really did as their faith teaches, they wouldn’t judge others.

[naomi24]

Why on earth does she need to absolve herself? I've never heard anything so ridiculous.

[ummmm]

She's being daft. It's not her getting married so she's not committing any sins (according to faith)

Where does she draw the line?

[beso]

Well said Naomi.

They wouldn't go to church either.

[mikey4444]

If she thinks that she can feel better by going to Saturday morning confession, let her go ahead.

[Tilly2]

Naomi, I am not saying she should ask for forgiveness. I am saying she will think she has to, being a good catholic and all that.

[ummmm]

Why? I was brought up Catholic and I've never felt the need to confess other peoples sins...

ps...It's not a sin imo..

[naomi24]

Tilly, ah, right.

I find it incredibly sad that the religious would even consider putting faith before loving family. How selfish.

[Tilly2]

ummm, will she not feel that she has committed a sin by supporting her brother's marriage? I don't know, I'm not a catholic.

[bert_h]

I don't think there's a dilemma - "do as you would be done by".

If he attends worship with her, even occasionally, then she should attend his 'wedding'.

If he doesn't, for whatever reasons that he thinks are okay, then she has just as good reasons for not attending his wedding.

[ladybirder]

I am shocked to the core that anybody would even consider not going to the wedding of a much loved brother because of their faith. Unthinkable.

[ummmm]

I can't see how. We are responsible for our own sins. It's not a sin to not disown someone because of their life choices.

Look at the 10 commandments.

Does she pop over the shop for a pint of milk on a Sunday?

[slaney]

I can see no dilemma- there is nothing as far as I can see in Catholic doctrine that forbids one from attending any wedding be it humanist, gay, hindu or whatever.