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What is the average cost of kids birthday/xmas
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My sons birthday is 5 weeks before xmas, I have bought him a Nintendo DS. My boyfriend asked my what my budget for his birthday was and I said �150. I also want to take my son with 3 friends bowling and have some food. He usually has a party somewhere and in the past this has cost another �130 ontop of his present. but have decided to scale down this year??? My boyfriend and i are disagreeing about how mush people spend on their kids. My argument is that my son who will be 7 does not understand that the tiny box that is his ds cost over �100 . I have told him i think he living in the dark ages and kids and birthday are expensive??? Any advice or views would be appreciated. He has just bought his sons birthday presents and spent �70 on his first birthday when he haset got a clue what day of the week it is????? Be interesed to know what other people spend including partys??
My sons birthday is 5 weeks before xmas, I have bought him a Nintendo DS. My boyfriend asked my what my budget for his birthday was and I said �150. I also want to take my son with 3 friends bowling and have some food. He usually has a party somewhere and in the past this has cost another �130 ontop of his present. but have decided to scale down this year??? My boyfriend and i are disagreeing about how mush people spend on their kids. My argument is that my son who will be 7 does not understand that the tiny box that is his ds cost over �100 . I have told him i think he living in the dark ages and kids and birthday are expensive??? Any advice or views would be appreciated. He has just bought his sons birthday presents and spent �70 on his first birthday when he haset got a clue what day of the week it is????? Be interesed to know what other people spend including partys??
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the cost of christmas and birthdays will depend mainly on what the parents are able to afford without having to borrow and be paying for years to come really. There is no point in a parent buying the latest toy on credit card and 3 years down the line when its out of date and broken still be paying the monthly payment.
Your son may not know that a DS costs �100 but perhaps its time he started learning about money, after all he'll no doubt be wanting games for it further down the line and someone will need to pay for them.
Its personal choice of course, but you need to decide what you can afford and take it from there.
My son is a lot younger but last year we spent �100 on him at xmas and he had way too much stuff so this year he will have a few small presents and then a sum of money into his child trust fund. Well thats the plan anyway, i know I'll get carried away lol
Your son may not know that a DS costs �100 but perhaps its time he started learning about money, after all he'll no doubt be wanting games for it further down the line and someone will need to pay for them.
Its personal choice of course, but you need to decide what you can afford and take it from there.
My son is a lot younger but last year we spent �100 on him at xmas and he had way too much stuff so this year he will have a few small presents and then a sum of money into his child trust fund. Well thats the plan anyway, i know I'll get carried away lol
He is at the age when he can learn about the value of money. I dont mean to sound tight, but I have never ever spent that kiind of money on my daughter who will be 7 just 10 days after christmas. This is because I wouldnt be able to afford it and also because she values what she gets, not how much it cost. I think the nintendo and the bowling plus a couple of little presents would be plenty for any 7 year old. Dont forget he will be getting presents of family and friends too so its not like he isnt going to get much.
My sister and her husband have always spent a fortune on their three kids, then he lost his job just before christmas one year and they could only afford half of what they normally can. Their kids werent able to appreciate what they did get because they had always been used to so much more and were dissappointed at the lack of money spent on them.
I think reds idea of the trust fund is a good one. Another idea is to give your son some money and take him out shopping. Let him know how much money he has to spend and let him go for it!
My sister and her husband have always spent a fortune on their three kids, then he lost his job just before christmas one year and they could only afford half of what they normally can. Their kids werent able to appreciate what they did get because they had always been used to so much more and were dissappointed at the lack of money spent on them.
I think reds idea of the trust fund is a good one. Another idea is to give your son some money and take him out shopping. Let him know how much money he has to spend and let him go for it!
Perhaps I'm tight too but that seems an awful lot of money to spend on a birthday. My son is 5 and will be 6 in february, he will get about �100 in presents for xmas.(I don't go and spend it all, just as much as it takes )
For his birthday, he'll get much less in presents and a party, church hall with food and a bouncy castle about �70.
It's personal choice of course but kids get far too much at xmas and half of it never gets played with.
For his birthday, he'll get much less in presents and a party, church hall with food and a bouncy castle about �70.
It's personal choice of course but kids get far too much at xmas and half of it never gets played with.
Hiya.
I have two teenagers, their Xmas budget is �200 each but their birthday budget is �50.00 for presents but on the top of that we generally go for a meal or cinema etc etc so birthdays i spend about �100-�130.
Unfortunately money doesnt go that far nowadays, my youngest wants a WII for Xmas that will be his budet blown in that alone and my oldest wants an xbox 360 so again his budget will be eaten up.
I have two teenagers, their Xmas budget is �200 each but their birthday budget is �50.00 for presents but on the top of that we generally go for a meal or cinema etc etc so birthdays i spend about �100-�130.
Unfortunately money doesnt go that far nowadays, my youngest wants a WII for Xmas that will be his budet blown in that alone and my oldest wants an xbox 360 so again his budget will be eaten up.
Hi - when i was growing up i had nothing ( que violins ) not even the right school socks let alone presents and my parents where wealthy but tight !!! i recall one xmas getting a hair brush !! My son is now 7 and he gets everything and anything he wants, i want to stop cos deep down i know im not giving him the right lessons in life and he has no appreciation for the value of money...i just want him to have all the things i never...iv tried to say no but he is so sweet and says "ok mummy" his disappointed face near damb breaks my heart.....Do whatever you feel is right love x His reasont birthday party/disco cost �700 plus about �500 on presents which i have to admit is just ridiculous but i want him to be happy x
Hi Station, it is about personal choice and after all it is what you can comfortably afford, everyone makes different choices for their kids.
To Gummy bear, I'm sorry to say you're getting it wrong, giving kids material things dos not necessarily make them happy and they need to learn the value of no. There are plenty of disappointments in life to come, the odd no now builds up resilience, you can spot the kids a mile off who've never heard it. Just cos you had a poor start doesn't mean you have to overcompensate now. Ultimately the choice is yours, if you have that money and are happy to spend it on your child that's fine but you really are doing him a disservice by never saying no.
To Gummy bear, I'm sorry to say you're getting it wrong, giving kids material things dos not necessarily make them happy and they need to learn the value of no. There are plenty of disappointments in life to come, the odd no now builds up resilience, you can spot the kids a mile off who've never heard it. Just cos you had a poor start doesn't mean you have to overcompensate now. Ultimately the choice is yours, if you have that money and are happy to spend it on your child that's fine but you really are doing him a disservice by never saying no.
Last year I took a small family on a weekend trip. The trip was to celebrate the birthday of a boy aged ten. They asked me to take them to New York City. Two very (overly) westernised girls age 14 and 16, their mother (who was anything but Westernised) the boy, and a personal maid. The final cost of this four day trip�are you ready? �126,625.49! And what did the boy get out of this? All of the most ridiculously expensive pieces of gaming kit, laptop, and projector, plus the opportunity to be as arrogantly obnoxious as you could ever imagine.
The girls? Lets see�as I recall..Bergdorf Goodman�s, Saks, Bloomingdales, Cartier, Tiffany & Co., Brooks Brothers, Sharper Image, oh and an utter �buy out� of some stunned looking Senegalese street hustler who was selling knock-off Herme�s scarves! And a minimally vicarious peek into a Manhattan dance club.
What stunned me most however was on the flight home. The boy could care less about his fortune of toys. What was of most interest was a Tiffany�s box he had cut a hole in and was running a $5 corgi miniature car in and out of.
Personally, I feel we spend too much on our children for birthdays. Of course, I�ve presented the mobile phones, Ipods, etc., to my own. But I�ve also ensured that parties were always at home, where the labour of love came from our hands, rather than that highly over-rated compulsion we tend to force upon ourselves in trying to match what others do.
My son�s birthday is next week. I�ve scheduled an all day horse ride and I�ve replaced his two year old mobile. And of course, I�ve written to him to remind him how much he is loved and how proud I am of him.
The most valuable gift of all? Ensuring your children know that they are valued and loved.
I wish you the best
Fr Bill
The girls? Lets see�as I recall..Bergdorf Goodman�s, Saks, Bloomingdales, Cartier, Tiffany & Co., Brooks Brothers, Sharper Image, oh and an utter �buy out� of some stunned looking Senegalese street hustler who was selling knock-off Herme�s scarves! And a minimally vicarious peek into a Manhattan dance club.
What stunned me most however was on the flight home. The boy could care less about his fortune of toys. What was of most interest was a Tiffany�s box he had cut a hole in and was running a $5 corgi miniature car in and out of.
Personally, I feel we spend too much on our children for birthdays. Of course, I�ve presented the mobile phones, Ipods, etc., to my own. But I�ve also ensured that parties were always at home, where the labour of love came from our hands, rather than that highly over-rated compulsion we tend to force upon ourselves in trying to match what others do.
My son�s birthday is next week. I�ve scheduled an all day horse ride and I�ve replaced his two year old mobile. And of course, I�ve written to him to remind him how much he is loved and how proud I am of him.
The most valuable gift of all? Ensuring your children know that they are valued and loved.
I wish you the best
Fr Bill
Amonty - the thought of having to build a child up to a lifetime of possible disappointments is such an awful prospect but i have to admit your so right, funny how 2 people can look at the same situation and see two completely diffrent things, i owe it to him to give him some preperation...wish i could make all things better but unfortunately life is not like that and no amount of money can stop that...thanks for your thoughts.
It wasn't meant as a criticism gummy bear, being a parent is hard enough as it is. It is better to love your child, show him you are proud, give him a dose of morality, the difference between right and wrong and someone who loves him and listens to him.
I work with seriously abused children , most of them have a wii or a playstation, they don't have all of the above.
Just spending time with your son and watching him develop physically and emotinally will set him up for life.
It is sad but life is disappointing at times.
My nephew as had everything all his life, public school, money and now he has....benefits, can't see the value of anything cos his dad always bails him out....very sad.
I work with seriously abused children , most of them have a wii or a playstation, they don't have all of the above.
Just spending time with your son and watching him develop physically and emotinally will set him up for life.
It is sad but life is disappointing at times.
My nephew as had everything all his life, public school, money and now he has....benefits, can't see the value of anything cos his dad always bails him out....very sad.
I DON'T THINK YOU ARE WRONG.....
Birthdays can be cheaper, as I think it is the right time to teach them about the value of money. I explain that they can have couple of little (cheap) things or one more expensive thing -their choice, but Xmas is more difficult if they believe in Santa - a happy medium has to be found - not to spoil them so much that they are not appreciative, but also not to disappoint them - Xmas and Birthdays are a special time, which unfortunately, no matter how careful you are, are not cheap. You son is 7 - he will be so excited. You do what you think, as YOU know best. If he wants a Nintendo Ds you should buy it for him. My daughter is having one for her birthday and a party and she certainly knows the value of money and is always very grateful - It is much more important that we constantly each them values throughout the year - birthdays are time to be spoilt. You cannot include the party in the cost of the present, it is just an additional expense that every family should be prepared to spend for young children (who whilst should know the value of money should not be made to feel guilty at having it spent on them). Your boyfriend is not in a position to comment after spending �70.00 on a baby - people in glass houses should not throw stones!!!! Hope he has a great birthday x
Birthdays can be cheaper, as I think it is the right time to teach them about the value of money. I explain that they can have couple of little (cheap) things or one more expensive thing -their choice, but Xmas is more difficult if they believe in Santa - a happy medium has to be found - not to spoil them so much that they are not appreciative, but also not to disappoint them - Xmas and Birthdays are a special time, which unfortunately, no matter how careful you are, are not cheap. You son is 7 - he will be so excited. You do what you think, as YOU know best. If he wants a Nintendo Ds you should buy it for him. My daughter is having one for her birthday and a party and she certainly knows the value of money and is always very grateful - It is much more important that we constantly each them values throughout the year - birthdays are time to be spoilt. You cannot include the party in the cost of the present, it is just an additional expense that every family should be prepared to spend for young children (who whilst should know the value of money should not be made to feel guilty at having it spent on them). Your boyfriend is not in a position to comment after spending �70.00 on a baby - people in glass houses should not throw stones!!!! Hope he has a great birthday x
We have always spend a lot more on Christmas than on Birthday presents - I probably spend about �50 on each for birthday - My boys are 7 and 6 - they gets lots of other presents form family and friends. At Christmas, I intend to spend about �200 each, but I am sure it ends up more than that. However, I would never go into debt for Christmas. It is possible to have a really good Christmas on less than that, but we don't spend a lot on them outside of these events. They get enough pocket each week to buy their comic and for tuck at school during the week.
They usually have a joint Birthday party which we usually combine with a family/friends party which costs a lot, but it isn't only for them, it is our summer event which we use to celebrate their bithday as well.
They usually have a joint Birthday party which we usually combine with a family/friends party which costs a lot, but it isn't only for them, it is our summer event which we use to celebrate their bithday as well.
i can really understand your problem, i have two kids to buy for and two grandchildren, and my husband thinks i spend far to much, so this year i have decided on �100 for my son and �50 each for my daughter and her two daughters, the problem however is thst one grandaughter has her birthday on xmas eve and the other on the 2nd jan, so thats �350 befor we think of each other and the rest of the family, i thought it got cheaper when your children grew up?
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