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was that meant to be a dig canary?
I have already freely admitted that I spoil my kids - OH and I were brought up in large poor families - we can afford to give our kids lots of things and experiences so we do, our choice. We are also raising responsible citizens and future taxpayers.
The boys already sponsor a child each and know that there are children who don't have what they do - they go to scouts and they help in the community. So far the communities reward to them is to bully them. Despite this, they have never missed school and work hard and I am happy to reward that - again, my choice.