An Argument With A Friend, Is It For The Best?

[inamuddle1]

I've fallen out with a friend I've known all her life. She's about 6 years younger than me. I find her very controlling and tormenting. I moved away from my home town 2 years ago, and am enjoying life.

She's been trying to get me to go to a festival with her just before Christmas as I'm going home for Christmas. I dont know what I want to do, I dont want to go to the festival. But the argument goes deeper than the festival for me.

I dont want to be so involved with her anymore, she doesnt make me feel good. Kinda why you would split up from a girlfriend or boyfriend situation. She called me a wee broccoli, and I didnt like it. I told her if that is the way she speaks to people, that it was rude and she should stop. I have known her all her life. I need distance from her. She's a very controlling person, but extremely good fun, and I love her, but I feel I need this for my own progression. Am I being unreasonable?

[inamuddle1]

lol wee broccoli Sh*te* was the word hehehe

[Gizmonster]

Only you know how you truly feel about her and the situation, so at the end of the day, only you can decide.
I don't think you're being unreasonable. If you really don't want to go to the festival, just say so. What's she going to do - drag you there ??

[inamuddle1]

yes, the festival is not really the issue. x

[mccfluff]

if you don;t want to see her or go to the festival, don't. tell her straight, once and then don;t get caught up in any discussions

[puddle-duck]

You need to think about what's right for you and if cutting her out or distancing yourself from her, then do so. I don't think you're being unreasonable.

[ummmm]

No, not unreasonable at all.

[Mani_H]

You seem to enjoy her company and love her. Why not just be honest with her about how you feel rather than lose the friendship?

[Canary42]

Only continue this relationship if you are a masochist ("I find her ... tormenting").

[happyone2]

i once had a friend from childhood, and i realised we were friends out of habit, we didnt really have the same values or lifestyles or anything to bound us but those shared memories.

I told her that i wanted to end the friendship as it was not a positive in my life and i do not regret that at all.......................

sometimes its just right Good luck Pxx

[boxtops]

Don't go, just tell her you don't want to go, she can only control you if you let her.

[furballxl5]

With friends like her who needs enemies!