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Terminal ill friend
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.It would be lovely if you bought her flowers kitten. No need to make a big deal of it, just say you saw them & thought she might like some. Talk to her as you normally would, ask her how she's doing, or ask her opinion (on something thats happened at work for example) Just don't try too hard but most importantly of all please don't avoid her, she's still the person she always was. When you're ill the last thing you want or need is to be treated like an outcast or an embarrassment.
It's a lovely thought, all the best. x
Hi Kitten, I judge from your posting that the illnesses are pretty much advanced, I feel for you in this situation, i've been there myself. I don't know if your friend can understand what your saying, but if you can, and it is hard, talk to your friend, tell her whats happening at the Bingo, give her the best wishes of the people there, (even if they haven't), but just being there for her, may bring some comfort, she'll know she's with a friend, and if she normally appreciates flowers, then i'm sure she'll appreciate it if you bring her some.
Maybe someone else can give you some better advice. I wish you all the best.
One of the most thought provoking things ever said to me was a comment by a terminally ill friend who said "Everybody is happy to help you to live well but nobody ever seems to want to help you die well". I think this is because confronting prospective death directly with the suffering individual is so difficult. So buy her flowers, give her your friendship and all the support you can. Let her final weeks or months be lived in the knowledge that she has not been abandoned but valued for what she still is.
What a nice friendly "kitten" you are, keep up the good work, talk as you can, this lady is not getting better, and she probally finds it difficult to talk back, as she probally has memory loss moments, so be your kind self, take those flowers, give her a hug and a happy moment, she will be very grateful that you care,
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