Which Top Should I Wear Later For My Meal

[abbeylee90]

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[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, your day might seem quite long - but you're never working more than 6 hours a day, far less than most people. I think you said one of the jobs was on your doorstep, so it's not as if you're spending hours travelling every day. It probably feels worse because you are spending time in two places.

[abbeylee90]

Yea thar care prefer that place that is on my doorstep. I'm not sure if I'm not cut out for HB or 2 jobs 

[scorpiojo]

Are you cut out for working full time?

[Redhelen72]

Can you claim help for your disability?

[Countrylover]

It would be decided on the individuals symptoms and how it affects them rather than the condition Red.  Sorry I'm answering  because Abbey might find it difficult.  

[Barsel]

It's not often that I get mad, and when I do, I try to walk away, and I've been trying to walk away from this thread, but I can't, I really feel I should say something.

Abbey comes on here quite often to ask 'what should I wear' and quite often that question is answered pretty quickly and she decides what to wear, but then, she is asked about her job and her health, WHY?

If I were to ask what I should wear, would you all start asking me about my job and my health? No.

Please, please, please, to stop people getting annoyed, can you all just answer her question and leave it?

If she asks about her job or her health then fair enough, but she probably doesn't want to, and now Helen is asking does she get help for her disability, was the straw that broke the camel's back.

I know some of you might not like me saying this, but please can you stop questioning Abbey about these things, it's really not fair.

 

 

[Floko]

Well said Barsel

[Barsel]

Thank you Floko, I'm pleased you agree.

[Redhelen72]

Well thanks for your response Lottie, but given Barsel response I think I will stay away in future.

i was trying to help because the op said she found it a struggle working hours! 

[Barsel]

Helen, you have to think about how you would feel if people were to start asking you the questions that Abbey gets asked and I'm sure you wouldn't be pleased. I know I wouldn't.

[Countrylover]

Barsel, I think your anger should be towards those that have been quite horrible  about Abbey and her posts,  not on those who have tried to help her.  She has openly  told us what her problem is on another thread.   Red was just asking if she could get any help.  Abbey is slowly joining in with us, and that is good.

[Countrylover]

I didn't see you there when I started my post Red.

[Barsel]

Lottie, I was hoping that the people who have been horrible wouldn't be horrible if just the question that was asked was answered without veering onto Abbeys jobs and health.

I think it might have been you who said that if Abbey has got a health problem, she might not want to talk about it, so I think that until she does ask for help in that regard, then she shouldn't be bombarded with questions about it. 

Her question was answered more or less straight away and yet already this thread is up to 92 answers.

I know you are only trying to help her Lottie, but I really think you are putting her under pressure.

[Redhelen72]

That's ok Lottie I have asked my question in the appropriate place so as not to be chastised again 

[Barsel]

Helen, I know it comes across as though I'm chastising, and that is why I've been reluctant to say anything, but I really felt it was going a bit too far with all the questioning towards Abbey and that is why I felt I should say something.

[Countrylover]

It was Pasta who knew her health problem and told us Barsel,and she gave Pasta best answer.   I was very tactful when I suggested what I did, basically because I suffer from chronic anxiety and other things which tie up with dyspraxia.  I wanted Abbey to feel comfortable with us and she reacted very well and opened Ed .  No need for anger.

[Barsel]

Lottie, I know you have been very unwell, but you have been able to share your problems with us which is good, but Abbey might not find it easy to do that, and this is why I was getting a bit annoyed as I felt she was being put under pressure a bit.

 

[Countrylover]

I haven't shared my problems actually.  Just the tip of the iceberg!  I am wise enough to tread carefully  as have  all those who want to help her.  Nobody has put pressure on her.

[pastafreak]

I shared what I remembered from previous posts, due to the fact I'd had it up to my eyeballs with people doubting Abbey, trying to discredit her, claiming it was a wind-up. I believe Lottie also hinted at recognising possible issues. 

I would rather not have said anything, but I also wanted to stop the over-riding rudeness that some Abers are capable of. Many don't even get past the question before they are spouting off. Let me add that no-one on this page fits into the category of being rude. 😊

[Barsel]

Lottie, you are entitled to your opinion and so am I.

I felt the questions being asked of her were getting too personal and I decided to say so.