Annoying Problem..

[Rosenicola]

I split up with my boyfriend a year and a half ago after 5 years and laods of arguing.
He tried to get back with me for around a year and I kept saying no.

He tried loads of different things to saying he'd book a holiday to buying a house for us.
I still said no because I was so scared things would go back to normal and i felt no love for him.

Just as I came around to the idea after talking to him for ages and slowly falling for him all over again, he met someone else and has now moved in with her. I'm not kidding if was 2 weeks between us talking and then him movig in with her (strange if you ask me)

I didn't dwell on it too much as I know I had my chance, but recently I have been thinking about him all the time. It's annoying as I had the chance for a year and said no and trhen as soon as i wanted to, he moved in with someone.

I don't undertsnad it

I'm not sure if it's because I feel guilty or because I'm in a relationship that I don't want to be in right now..

I'm dreaming about him every other night and it's getting me down a little.

It is doing my head in

Any ideas or suggestions or any tips on how to move on? Or anyone been in the same situation?

xxx

[4GS]

Hi
it sounds as if you are in the "grass looks greener on the other side" scenario because of the relationship you are in now.
Finish with your present parner and enjoy being single

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, like 4GS says, if your not happy in your current relationship, get out before too many people get hurt.
How old are you?

[mrs_overall]

I had something similar in when I was single. I ended a relationship as I didn't love the guy and felt it was going nowhere. He didn't want the relationship to end and was persistent for a couple of months. He then met someone else and my feelings immediately changed and I found myself pining for him for ages.
Looking back, I think I felt this way simply because he'd stopped wanting me. It's a perverse aspect of human nature.
If you don't want to be in your current relationship, end it now as you're not being fair to yourself or the guy involved.
Get out there, have fun, keep yourself busy and you WILL get over it.

[Skreecheeboy]

Get over it girl! Get out there and have a look around! There's plenty of fish in the sea. You'll be spoiled for choice! x

[Skreecheeboy]

Woops, hadn't read the bit about being in a relationship! Don't take my advice, read what everyone else has to say. I know nothing! :-)

[Rosenicola]

Hey Mrben.. I'm 24..

I though too that it may be bcause he has met someone else and he's happy, but surely i'd be over it now.

I know i had the chance for a year and it's my fault that he has met someone else, but still get horrible pangs now and then and think of him all the time..

I'm sure i'll be fine and it's just natural..

Thanks guys

xx

[confused79]

I do know how you feel, its most probably the what if's that are going through your mind, it does take time i know myself but you will get through it, look as yiour new job as a new start and keep thinking positivie,

rooting for ya girl!!! x

[MrBen5]

I think it stems from the fact that your not happy in your current relationship too nic.
Maybe in some way you are comparing.
I am single if you fancy a change ; )

[Rosenicola]

LOL Mr Ben

How you know my real name, is that you putting tow and two together on my username LOL

I think that's what i need, a bit of fun for once LOL

Thanks confused.. I am using my job as a new start, that's another reason i got a new one..

I can't wait to start it, plus i have a week off in between and i'm off to London - YIPPEEE!!

Might meet a dishy man there :-)

The relationship i'm in at the moment is more or less over anyway as we never speak or see eachother anymore..

I'd more or less state myself as single anyway, but nothing has actually been said.. I suppose it doesn't take a scientist to work out my marital status tho' :-)

[nutgoneflake]

If he turned up on your doorstep today and said he was available, had finished with the other girl, and wanted you again etc etc I'd bet my last fiver you'd suddenly change your mind again!!

Dump your bloke properly, go off and paint London red, come back and start your new job and new life, and don't look back!!

(Then come on AB and tell us all about it...xx)

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i could do with going to London again, i have family down there i havent seen for ages.
Where are you from now?

[VillageVicar]

Hey Rosenicola!

What you�re experiencing is probably one of the most classic personal-growth steps anyone can go through in their lives. Whilst I believe �advice� from so many caring cyber-world people can be interesting, I feel the issues are much too complex for any of us to give sufficiently sound advice for you to act upon.

At your age, it�s �possible� you�ve never seen the movie �When Harry Met Sally.�
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0098635/

By no means am I minimising the anxiety and frustration and emotions you are experiencing when I make the following suggestion. I would encourage you to put on your favourite fluffy slippers, make a bowl of popcorn, grab your favourite drink, climb into bed and watch this film. Certainly, it won�t solve your problems. But what it will do is provide a rather interesting (and not too inaccurate) view on relationships between men and women and that ultimate journey in finding the �right one.�

And if you�d like to see a glimpse of the completely other end of the spectrum, when those pulsating flames are now glowing embers, you�re welcome to have a glimpse at the �other side� of that life-journey.

http://bigworldsmallboat.blogspot.com/2006/03/ falling-in-love-at-clapham-junction.html

And whatever your life-journey may be, I wish you the very best

Fr Bill

[weeal]

hi rosenicola, funnily the same feelings swept across me not 2 weeks ago when I passed my ex husband's house and saw a childrens trampoline in the back garden, we didnt have children, (divorced 5 years ago) I got a kinda pang of "I want that" and had a lump in my throat for about a week. But...I know that it would never work for all the reasons that it didnt work before. Im settling down about it again this week a bit.
Good luck x

[Rosenicola]

Hey Mr ben

I'm from Sheffield, but my friend lives in London

Thaks for the advice..

I will watch that film Village Vicar.. Thanks for the helpful replies
xxxxxx

[Rosenicola]

Hey Mr ben

I'm from Sheffield, but my friend lives in London

Thanks for the advice..

I will watch that film Village Vicar.. Thanks for the helpful replies
xxxxxx