mad stalker ex girlfriend.

[Jenarry]

I'm really worried so any thoughts or advice would be really appreciated.
my boyfriend split up from his ex and mother to his 2 sons nearly 2 years ago now but she is still obsessed with him and won't let go.
He had been split up with her and had no contact with her for nearly a year when we met but she is acting as if I'm the only thing keeping them apart and obviously I'm enemy no1 to her.
She texts my boyfriend everyday with a record number of 31 texts in one day just last week,she rings to shout abuse at him,she uses their boys as a way of trying to control him and she makes all sorts of threats to him and me.
The one time we have seen her in the street she was screaming at me that she was going to kill me (all in front of their 2 boys ,my little boy and lots of people)
My boyfriend has been to the police but they say she hasn't done anything serious enough yet to take action.
Well somehow she had gained access to my boyfriend's ebay account,changing the username,password,delivery address all into her details but unfortunately there was a message to a seller with my full address so now she knows where I am.
I was able to cope with her madness as there was that distance but now i'm really worried that she's going to turn up at my house anytime and do god knows what. :O( :O(

[Bobbisox]

surely you/he could get an injuction on her ?

[ummmm]

I'm with Vibes...

Most gobby mares like that can't back up their gob.

[NOX]

Ignore her, don't feed her obsession, don't answer her back,text her, retaliate in any shape or form ( unless she comes screaming at your door and then smack her witless) and hopefully eventually she'll just move on.

[Jenarry]

That's what we've been doing nox. ignoring her .bf doesn't reply to texts, he disconnects the call straight away when he realises it's her and we didn't react to her in the street that time but she still carries on and on. it's like she's not going to stop until we split up and he's back with her!!!

[mccfluff]

how do you deal with access to his sons then?

[Jenarry]

no pixi there isn't on my bf's mobile. he is waiting for his contract to end in feb and see if he can get a phone where he can do that if not he's going to change his number.
unfortunately after a yr of not being allowed access to his sons ,a lot of money to take it to court to get access rights then after just a handful of weekends with his boys she has denied him access unless he splits up with me. she has even prompted one of his young sons to write a letter to say that he hates me and my 4 yr old son and he doesn't want to see him until he gets rid of us!! what a lovely mum. so my bf rather than having boys put in the middle like this has stopped going to the house to get them and just be turned away.

[mccfluff]

what a horrible situation!, i take it there is no family member who could perhaps take to her or be an intermediary?

[Bobbisox]

What an awful situation for everyone concerned, he has rights to see his kids and her using them as a pawn in a game is despicable

[Jenarry]

not really mcfluff. by all accounts the ex's parents think she can do no wrong and will prob back her 100% regardless of what she's doing. :O( i do feel sorry for the boys the most. i think the ex only allowed the access to happen those few times so that she could get some info out of the older son about who i am,what i'm like,etc. sounds like she used to quiz him everytime he went home from his weekend with his dad. :O( and they would benefit so much from seeing their dad regularly. it's a big shame.

[Jenarry]

we've got the police coming tomorrow to talk to us and arrange to put a harrassment order on her. i hope it works but i really can't see her stopping...ever! i was so happy and felt safe that she didn't know where we was and that's all gone. :O(

[Jenarry]

She will have a harrassment order put on her today. Thank god for that. it means business as well. she can make no contact whatsoever either in person,by text,phonecall,letter ,email or via a 3rd party otherwise she will be arrested.. it helped our case that she was phoning my boyfriend and screaming down the phone she was going to kill him while the police where with us talking it through and that she sent me a long abusive letter in the post yesterday. mad woman!!