Would you know if you had an ugly child?

[tinkerbell23]

Inspired by the ugly famous people thread and boxy saying their mothers love them....

Yes loved....

But as a mum/dad/grandparent/whatever...

Are you just programmed to think the child is BEAUTIFUL or do you secretly know that they are...er....ugly???

Lol well saying i aint a mother.....however i do think of family members who id "spruce up" xx

[tinkerbell23]

By the way- i kind of mean "adult child"

I dont particularly think babies/ kids are ugly!!!

Like you were sayin dean gaffney- do u think his mum thinks hes beautiful for example x

[rowanwitch]

my mother told me I was unattractive and no one would want me... does that count I was only small at the time

[tinkerbell23]

Well my mum has told me before tht she wasnt going out with me looking like that (when i went through a really bad phase)....

But.... I have asked to have this removed if poss

Thought better of it :0/

X

[EvianBaby]

I know all children are beautiful but some just really really arent. I've seen some shocking looking babies.

But I reckon all mothers (more than fathers) believe their child is the most Beautiful thing on this planet although they would probably be willing to admit if their adult child had been hit by a few ugly sticks.

[ojread2]

Watch Jeremy Kyle. It appears anyone with problems is ugly - wonder what the statitions would have to say about that?

[emmie]

some not quite so well presented babies often grow up to be beautiful, so you never can tell. Some beautiful babies grow up to be horrors because they have had so much adulation that their grip on reality is skewed.

[ummmm]

I don't know...my kids are gorgeous...lol

I think most people know how good looking their kids, to a certain extent. They change so much that I think parents just look at them as the people they are.

[EcclesCake]

I always joked that the reason we didn't have kids was because they'd come out with glasses, a squint, goofy teeth, ginger and be autistic. If that wasn't bad enough there'd be be two of them.

[NOX]

Never really thought about this, but have now after reading this- yes I think I can be subjective enough to list my own older children in order of attractiveness, but with a couple of them it's their personalities that make them attractive when you know them so the order would change from someone being shown a photograph to when they actually met them- if that makes sense.
For myself with anyone I really don't care what they look like, just what they are like as people- you can get some really ' attractive' people I'd cheerfully shoot in the face qnd some 'fuglies' who are the most lovely people ever.

[MissCommando]

Hmmm, good question. I think if most of us were truthful, we would know if our child was ugly. My daughter definitely isn't ugly, she's average looking but can look adorable. Of course I tell her she's beautiful though as she's only 4 and even if she did turn out ugly, I would not tell her so and would do everything to make sure she made the best of herself.

My mum thinks I'm mean cause if she says my daughter looked lovely that day, I always say "Do you really think so?" lol.

[ummmm]

That's kinda what I meant NOX :-)

[andy-hughes]

When I look at my daughters, I see them differently.

My two older daughters are my step-daughters, so I have no biological connection to them.

I can see that my older daugher has grown into a beautiful woman and I see thew glances she gets when we are out together.

I can see that my middle daughter is attractive, although a little on the large side, but she still has a very pretty face and beeautiful skin.

My youngest daughter - to whom I am bilologically connected - I can only see as the baby and little girl she was, so I am unable to judge her as a woman in terms of her attraction.

Of course, all my girls are beautiful to me - but I think that biological parents are devoid of objective analysis of their children, they are beautiful to their mums and dads no matter what they look like.

I find the notion of a parent telling her child that he / she is ugly to utterly appalling - I have always - and still do - affirm my children as good decent indivudals, as well as being great wives and mums.

[Cowtipper]

I look at a picture of a newborn and all I see is an ugly baby that looks under done. People claim they are beautiful but it must be in the eye of the beholder. No kids of my own but people with kids can be quite annoying about showing off pictures of even the ugliest brat in the stable.

[andy-hughes]

Trust me Cowtipper, any parent will tell you that, barring any psychological barriers like PND they love their baby on sight and think they are the most beautiful creature on the planet.

I have lost count of the hours i have spent watching my youngest daughter sleep as a baby - it is that biological connection that makes them irresitable - wich is just as well, cosnidering what lies further uip the road!