What Should I Do?

[paul 1]

Hi there,

I met this girl about 14 months ago and all was great and she told me a million times she loved me. She still lives with her ex partner as they cannot not sell the house and she has two girls aged 8 and 9. So she would spend time at my house which was not a problem and we had great fun, going out, I met her girls and we got on really well.

She wanted me to go on holiday with her and her girls. So we booked a holiday and two days before I called her and she was a little distant over the phone. Anyway she said it was over and i replied ok, you go on holiday with your girls and have a great time. On the morning of the holiday she text to ask if she was still picking me up to go, so i thought why not as i had paid more than my share of this. Things were distant on the holiday and she would go of and do things with her girls and i was left to by the pool on my own. It is not much fun being on your own for most of the day with no one to speak to of have a good time with.

I cut short my holiday and left which cost a lot of money.

I would like to have advice on what to do. Should I not contact her at all and leave at that, in the hope she will come back. Contact her, where she may think to herself, I have him around my little finger!!

I thought when two people love each other and there are issues you discuss these and not just throw it all away.

Her excuse is that the the flame has gone and she cannot give me what i want.

thanks in advance for your help.

[grasscarp]

If she says the flame has gone then sounds like that is that as far as she is concerned. Sounds like she didnt make much effort on the holiday and you are probably better to find someone else.

[Sqad]

Yepp!....I agree with grasscarp

P.S Couldn't you have found a "bit of spare" whilst on holiday with her?

[VHG]

Move on.......

[andy-hughes]

It does sound as though this lady has decided that you are not the one for her.

It's a shame, but better to be told now, and make the break, than to be strung along and develop a relationship with her children which would hurt all of you when broken.

Best put this down to experience, and take your time a little with the next lady that comes along.

[Sqad]

I agree with all the above.
As she showed her lack of feelings for you on holiday, might it not have been an ideal time for you to look for alternative female company to compensate?

[mazie]

Much better sqad ;o)

[Sqad]

mazie...LOL....thank you ;-)

[mazie]

You're welcome x

[McMouse]

In my opinion this lady has problems and you are well out of it.

[pixie373]

I don't think she has a problem. She decided to give you one last go and it didn't work for her. Leave her to it.

[murraymints]

Move on !