calling your partners parents mum or dad?

[joko]

I don't think i could ever bring myself to call any other person mum or dad. my dad is my dad, my mum is my mum and i could and would never call anyone else it.

does this still happen much? or is it generally use first names? or are other names used like pop, papa, etc as long as its not what you call your own dad or mum.

imagine if you didn't get on with them, and your own parents had died - I imagine it would be like a knife every time you said it.

I know some older people insist on it.

thanks

[Lonnie]

I agree fully, when I met my future in-laws, I asked if they I could call them by their first names, and they agreed.

[kazza12345]

i call my mother in law carol. Sometimes i call her mum, but only in an ironic way!

[maggie01]

In my experience is seem to be the men that find it easier to call the in-laws mum and dad. I never got on with my mother in law so could never call her mum. Even if I had I don't think I would have called her mum, it just wouldn't feel comfortable.

[Kay]

I could never have brought myself to call my inlaws "Mum and Dad". For years I've called them MIL AND FIL. and they dont mind one bit:-))

[Greedyfly]

My sister used to call my dad - dad even though she knew he wasnt her dad, it is all in who brings you up and who feels/acts like the parent.

[joko]

greedyfly - i think you need to read the question properly! - it has nothing to do with who brought you up and who your real parents are.

it is about whether you should call your mother and father inlaw, mum and dad!

[natalie_1982]

I am getting married in two weeks so this is quite apt, my fella wants to call my dad but feels more comfortable by calling my mum by her name - that is fine with me. I, however, would feel like a traitor by calling his parents mum and dad. I don't feel I know his mum well enough to call her anything parenty but I call his dad 'Pops' in a jokey/ affectioate way or by his first name.

[kick3m0n]

it would never even occur to me to call the inlaws Mum and Dad, cos they're not! I call them by their first names, and my partner calls my mum by her first name. I don't think any of us expected it to be otherwise.

[Bohne]

I call my parents-in-law by their first name.

I couldn't imagine anything else...