boys & girls / Men & women

[javis69]

Plain and simple I wanna noe peoples toughts on a guy and a girl being FRIENDS...

PS: I saw when harry met sally and had huge debates in school lotta valid points I was wondering if people could share their toughts thanks

[mkt]

I think it depends on the individuals involved. Im female and have always had more male friends than female. Probably cos i was the only girl in a house full of brothers ive just always got on better with guys. However boyfriends dont seem to accept that you can just be friends with guys. In my experience theyve said that although they trust me they know that men are always thinking of more than friendship. Unless they're gay. In which case its ok. To be honest i think theres no prob with it and its more an issue of trust on a 3rd partys part.

[Whickerman]

True story - I've had very close friendships with two women (I'm male btw). But both got complicated when we shagged. It always happens.

[ludwig]

To quote some comedian whose name escapes me (Chris Rock I think)
'Women have platonic men friends - men don't have platonic women friends, we just have women we haven't shagged yet'
Disturbingly close to the truth I think.

[rugeleyboy]

i am male mid 30's and i will say from my heart, i want to sh*g everywomen im not related to!!

age,size,colour.....................bring them to me.

platonic friendships my *rse!!!

[littleoldme]

I'm male, heterosexual and perfectly capable of having platonic friendships with women - yep, even pretty ones! It's all about self-control, a mature attitude and mutual respect.

[Whickerman]

But littleoldme - by having to have self control aren't you admitting theat the thoughts are there? Isn't this a step beyond friendship?

[Bohne]

I have lots of male friends, but it doesn't always work out.

I have been great friends with a guy for about seven years, and then he decided that he wanted more than just friendship. :o(

[ShellyHall]

I was good friends with a guy when I was at secondary school. I secretly fancied him something crazy, but never did anything about it. I didn't want to mess up the friendship. The week before he went away to Uni I found out through a mutual friend that he had "seen the light" and wanted to develop our friendship further. I stupidly did nothing about it. He went to Uni and I never saw him again for a year or so. When I saw him next I was engaged to be married and he begged me not to do it. I was stupid and laughed it off. I've never seen him again.

I think girl/boy friendships can last, but I'll never try again!

[maxi29]

I have lots of female friends. Most of my friends since school have been women: I find they're easier to talk to and don't have a compulsion to go out drinking 8 pints a night, taking their trousers down in public and recite Monty Python sketches ad infinitum. I've had a sexual relationship with one of my friends but we got over that and we're good mates now but all my other relationships with my female friends have been purely platonic and are going to stay that way.

When my girlfriend and I got together, she did find it a bit weird that I had few male friends but she now accepts that my relationships with women are harmless and has become friends herself with most of them,

So, yes, it's perfectly natural for men and women to be friends. Men who say that it's impossible are a bit strange, IMHO.