Carolemac, I'm sorry that I don't know of any support groups that can help with this, but I do want you to know that you are not alone. My father is an "in the closet" gay man. That may sound rather glib, but I know this to be true as over the years there have been too many clues/signs/items left around for him to be anything else. As a family we have all confronted him and asked him outright whether he is gay or not, but he will never give us a straight answer. Consequently, he is a very bitter man who drowns his sorrows with the contents of the gin bottle. At times, he has made life for me and the rest of my family unbearable. For the last 31 years he has treated my Mother like a slave. And Mum, being the person she is has put up with it.....that was her choice, I know I would have made a different one. He has never been the most attentive father, but over the last few years the relationship between my father and us (I have two brothers) has almost completely collapsed. But throughout his poor treatment of others, we have never offered anything other than support and yet he has knocked it back in our faces. I wish that he would simply admit that he is gay......then we all might be able to start living our lives.