Going out

[KittyGlitter]

I've noticed that when I go out at the weekends to bars, pubs or clubs, the majority of people are in their early 20's. Do you think that when people hit 30 they either can't be bothered going out anymore or they get married and spend most of their time going to B and Q ?! Where are all the 30 somethings hiding?

[Dom Tuk]

Glad you asked this question. I usually have people at work (in their 20s) asking if i would come out with them at the weekend and it is i guess more out of politeness than any wish to spend their night outs with me. I am in my late 30s and have to explain why i have been there and done that and going out does not appeal to me any more. In my university days i was out in the streets of Belfast every thu/fri/sat and the occasional other weekday. I did for 10 years of my life after Uni. The charm wears thin. I now have a family, mortgage to pay, children to put thru private school (yeah why should i give my money to the brewery) and a career to think of in other words money to earn. there is a time and place for everything...I had a great time going out in the weekends. Now i have a great time staying in with a glass of wine and planning my expensive holidays. There is no sight worse than a middle aged man on the dance floor in a poxy club believe me. And as for new years eve a majority of people dress up to go and do what they have done every other week in their lives!!!

Vic Meldrew

[woofgang]

well to precis Dom Tuk, the pleasure wears off...

[Philtaz]

I agree with Dom Tuk.(As we're roughly the same age and I was there 3 times I may have been in the same bars in Belfast as Dom!)  I'm also fed up of wading through  a bar full of 16-20 year olds, stood 5 deep at the bar with a �20 note in their hands asking for 4 bottles of WKD.  It takes longer than usual to attract the attention of and order your drinks from the bar person because they are unable to hear you above the ridiculously loud 'music'.

At the end of the evenings entertainment one has to queue for a taxi fo an hour and a half whilst the young ladies and gentleman argue and vomit all over the pavement.

Why would I want to put up with that sh*te every Friday and Saturday night when I've got a mortgage, two children, 2 cars and a wife who likes to shop for clothes in Next and Monsoon(among others) on an unfashionably frequent basis?

[sunflower68]

Yup, sorry kitty but we're not wishing we could be there with you, just glad we  had all the fun and have the memories.  We all change as we age and other things become priority.  We're so very old we're usually so knackered by Friday night, personally I barely have the stregnth to open the Chardonnay.  Enjoy your times; you'll look back on them fondly. x

[Glossopswift]

When we do go out (about twice per year, when babysitting and mortgage/bills/clothes for kids budgets allows etc) we go to pubs that sell real beer, then on to a music venue that plays songs with a real tune and not that thump thump stuff. And have you noticed what the girls these days wear? Not that staying in is much fun, what happened to all the variety on telly? It's all swearing and reality these days? You used to be able to leave your back door open etc etc...........and it will happen to you too KittyGlitter. If, when you are in your thirties, you do still frequent the same bars that you do now you will either be breathing in (if you are male) or the subject of a 'grab a granny raid' if you are female. See you down at B&Q in a few years...

[KittyGlitter]

Well I am in my early 30's but I'm still single, so I still have a need to go out and put myself out there. Unfortunately on the whole,  the men who go to bars are either too young or too old for my tastes - fellow singletons or divorcees. I sometimes feel tired of going out though with that feeling of been there/done that. I also think it depends hugely on where you go. Its nice to be surrounded by like minded people and not 18 year old p*ss heads binge drinking and shouting. You just have to choose your drinking establishment carefully!

[ICEMANSAV]

I don't think you need to put yourself " out there", why don't you try finding a partner at different venues other than pubs and clubs. It strikes me that women "mutton dressed as lamb" appear desperate and an easy prey for a bloke looking for fun. So try going to B & Q and look for men buying one garden chair etc.

[Dark Angel]

Kittyglitter, its true what the others said, when you are a teenager or in your twenties, its likely you may meet someone suitable at a pub or nightclub, but if you are in your 30's and looking, you are not likely to find any eligible men in those places. Like Icemansav said, you are more likely to find a suitable man at B&Q! Or have friends introduce you to someone...

[Glossopswift]

KittyGlitter, I take my previous answer back. Where are you going to be on Saturday? We could drink and dance through the night and then go straight to B&Q on Sunday morning. Name a place and I'll put my best Farahs on and meet you there. You'll recognise me, I'll be the one breathing in.

[KittyGlitter]

Haha, ok Glossopswift you're on, except I'd prefer to go to Homebase if thats ok with you. B&Q is so last year don't you think? I'll be the one wearing a tweed suit and pearls.... 

[Miss Zippy]

We do still go out but I guess as you get older the emphasis is on spending quality time with your friends and partners rather than getting drunk/chatted up so the places we choose to go to are different. These days I actually only enjoy going out to clubs when I�m with friends and our boyfriends/husbands as I can�t stand being part of the �meat market� and men assuming you�re just out to pull when it�s just us girls.  Unfortunately as you get older it can be more difficult to meet lots of other decent single men, but they are out there, just not likely to be in clubland!