Living longer and living better are two different things. Where no one wants his/her loved ones to die at any age let alone young, one has to believe that death is the biggest reality. I personally would only want to live as long as I can take care of myself. Having said that, it is not entirely in our control and your loved ones "the same who do not want you to die" should be able to take care of you. But that can only happen if they had seen you taking care of your elders. Unfortunately what is happening right now is that people want their loved ones to live but do not want to care for them. Because they are either too busy or their love has boundaries.
People tell a tale where I am from. That in time gone by when parents were old people would take them and dump them in the jungle. Once a man put his mother in wheel barrow and asked his son to help him. Once in the jungle, he dumped his mother their and as he was turning away he saw that his son was trying to drag the wheel barrow. Man said, “Son, leave it we would not need it any more”. Son replied, “No dad, it would save me looking for another one once it is time for me to dump you or my mother”. That did put some thought into that man’s head.