I Think My Best Friend Trying To Make Me Fat! What Should I Do?

[Savhanna]

In about August,
I was telling my best friend about how I didn't eat at lunch everyday and how I felt like crap. He told me to eat so I wouldn't feel sick...he's been reminding me to eat lunch everyday since then and he Has been right. However, in the weeks that have gone by, at least once a week he's brought me something sweet and delicious to pretty much bribe me to eat. Like about the third week after all of that, he brought me a cupcake two days in a row. The following week, he brought me a muffin bigger than my hand! Whatever he brings me seems to get more and more fattening as the weeks go by, and he brings more each week too. A couple weekends after that, he was texting me to eat during the weekend. Well, I did, and that Sunday, I ate so much that I could barely move! It was then that I noticed my once small tummy was a bit bigger and softer! It's been several months, and he's still bringing me food every day! With my kind nature, I've not been able to refuse the food once! Well, plus he brings the tastiest (but most fattening) food, and my appetite has gotten MUCH bigger! Before this whole thing, I was about 115 pounds...Now I'm teetering on the 200 pound mark, at 193 pounds to be precise, and still growing. As much as I'd love to stop this, my appetite is so big now that I can't even control how much I eat anymore. Every time I eat, I become extremely greedy, eat everything I have, and then proceed to ask my friends or family members for anything they're not going to finish. I need to stop this but I can't, so I'll figure that out some other time...But I'm wondering if my best friend is purposefully trying to fatten me up, or if it's just coincidence and he doesn't realize it. What should I do? And please, no stupid answers that are insulting either. If you're going to be mean, don't give me an answer, because I don't want it. This is a legitimate question and issue that I'm having!

[grasscarp]

Savannah. Do take a look at Sheye20's profile (who you say is not also you). this person also joined the site at 1737 on Tuesday 9 April and has so far posted one long rambling first and only question. What a huge coincidence is that!

[ST24]

The best advice I can give for weight loss is to stop thinking about food ; pick a subject for the day and any time you start to think about food change to thinking about your topic of the day.
If your friend keeps trying to feed you then you need to tell him that you're on a weight loss diet ; if he continues bringing you inappropriate food he's not your friend any more.

[Savhanna]

Grasscarp, I'm SICK of your STUPID CRAP! Do you KNOW how many OTHER people probably started accounts at the same FREAKING TIME TOO?! Are you not that BRIGHT?! A coincidence is a coincidence! I am COMPLETELY NEW HERE, and YOU are just plain ANNOYING and I do NOT understand how you're allowed on this site with how you've been acting on my thread! GET OFF OF MY THREAD! If you're going to post stupid crap like you have been, THEN GO AWAY! If you see a thread you don't like, DON'T POST ANYTHING! It's as Simple AS THAT!

[Savhanna]

On top of that, Grasscarp, HOW in the WORLD would I start two accounts at EXACTLY the same time and post two long questions like you say? WHAT is the point of that? If I have multiple questions, WHY in all HELL would I start TWO accounts when I could just ask the other question...ON THE SAME ACCOUNT, SMART ONE?!

[grasscarp]

And Sheye20 also posted using letters in capitals for emphasis just as you have done! Funny that.

[Savhanna]

Grasscarp. You are NOT that bright at all, and you're just plain annoying. People are similar, and there isn't any reason in HELL for me to make two accounts to post two questions when I can post BOTH on ONE account! Stop posting on my thread, you're just annoying and think you know everything!

[bravejordy]

Savhanna, I can sympathize with you. Until recently, I found myself in a very similar situation. Every Friday I go to my sister's house for dinner, her hubby is an excellent cook but the only trouble is the meals he dishes out are huge and seemed to be getting bigger with each passing week. Now here's the thing, it wasn't just a simple case of "Eat what you can, leave what you can't" (if it had been, there wouldn't have been a problem) but my brother-in-law would get in a really bad mood if I wasted any of the food so I felt compelled to eat it all whether I felt like it or not. I know exactly what you mean by feeling really full and unable to move. It's easy for people here to say "Just say no" but unless they're actually in that situation, it's hard to stand in judgement of others. Yes, I've tried being subtle (without causing offence) with my brother-in-law by telling him I only wanted a small dinner but even his "small" dinners are bigger than average and like I say, within weeks they're back to being massive meals so it really is like fighting a losing battle. To be fair, I don't think he's trying to fatten me up, but the thing is I'm short (about 5ft 4ins) and I weigh around 200 lbs and people seem to assume if you're a bit broad across the beam then you must be a big eater, but this couldn't be further from the truth. I understand that people like your friend and my brother-in-law mean well and it really is difficult to tell them "enough is enough". My one suggestion would be couldn't you tell your friend a little white lie? For instance, couldn't you tell him your doctor thinks you may have diabetes and maybe this would stop him bringing you tempting things like cupcakes and muffins? It might be worth a shot and it avoids having to hurt your friend's feelings.

[Savhanna]

First off, bravejordy, THANK YOU for a real answer! This is the sort of thing I've been looking for, but I've only gotten "Oh this is fake!"
"Oh you and this person must be the same!" "Don't blame your friend you're doing this to yourself!" No. Those answers are just rude and annoying. Yours, is probably the only good one I've gotten! And, ok...Yes, I am kind of doing this to myself, because I probably could have stopped myself and lost all the weight, but way back when it all started I didn't think to at the time. And I waited a bit too long and am now a little too fat to start trying to get skinny again. But bravejordy, thank you so much for the real answer, and while I probably won't be able to lie to my best friend, I'll definitely try talking to him tomorrow.

[bravejordy]

Thanks Savhanna, there is a bit more to my story. After many months of enduring my brother-in-law's massive meals, I finally tried to be tactful by conveying a message via my sister. Unfortunately this ended up being a disaster! My sister took offence because she misinterpreted it as me saying I didn't like her husband's cooking when in fact, all I was trying to say was he's a great cook but he spoils it by piling too much on the plate. Long story short, my sister and I ended up having a huge fight and didn't talk to one another for two weeks. I'm happy to say we've since made up and the one good thing to come out of it is it seems to have finally got the message across and these past three weeks the meals have been a more normal manageable size. However, getting back to your situation:- I can understand you not wanting to lie to your friend but I was just trying to think of a gentle way to tell him he's not doing you any favours by bringing you cakes and stuff. It probably would be best if you could sit down and have a long talk with him. You seem a lot like me in that you worry that you may have left it too long and your friend will wonder why you're only bringing the subject up now if it's bothered you for so long. I guess you could try explaining the truth, that it's taken you this long to pluck up the courage because you didn't want to hurt his feelings. Hopefully he'll understand and respect you for telling him the truth. I know this is a lot easier said than done, but I really do hope you can resolve this situation between you and your friend. Whatever you decide to do, please keep us posted on how things go.

[bravejordy]

Also, in regards to you now having a big appetite to the extent of finishing your friend's or family member's meals, perhaps you could have a word with your doctor. He might be able to prescribe some kind of appetite suppressant.