you started with the gobbing off and coming across as a nasty spiteful horror - so what did you expect people to think of you?
no, we don't really know you at all - we only know what YOU choose to show us - and you chose to be horrible.
and now we have the pitying, poor me, i'm nice really stuff ... too late, you have shown your true colours i'm afraid, and people can spot them a mile off - men included
the reason the other site wasn't nasty to you, is because as you say yourself, you did not rant.
theres a lesson there
enjoy your (ficticious) site