How Do I Ask Out A Shy Girl When Im Shy Myself?

[MetalShredder33]

Ok, so im in high school and ending my freshman year. Ive known this girl since elementary school and on. Recently, ive started noticing her ( not in a creepy way). Just suddle things like how she dresses and acts around her friends and such. Our eyes have met several times iand we've both caught each other starring at one another. She is a shy girl and ive probably heard her speek a handful of times and im the same way. Ive been falling for her and i think i wanna make the risk of asking her out for a movie or somethimg. I have never had a girlfriend and im horrible at this kinda thing so Can anyone help me?

[MetalShredder33]

Thanks seb! ill let you know what happens!

[princerupe74]

As you're nervous about it and it sounds like she may be too, best you approach her where not too many other people are around. It only takes one other schoolkid to overhear you and you'll both be teased something rotten. Maybe also prepare at least some of what you'd like to say to her. But just suggest something light, like meeting for a coffee or going for a walk, initially. Movies are hopeless for first dates because its hard to chat in a cinema, and you cant see from her eyes how she's reacting to you. It may seem a good idea to say something like "I really like you" before asking her out, but it seems you've not spoken to her before so she'll assume you just fancy her physically. I'd just say something like "Hi, I know this may seem a bit forward, but I was wondering if you might be interested in having a drink with me sometime." Brace yourself for a refusal, but hope it's a yes. Good luck.

[DJHawkes]

did you post this exact same question about a year ago?

[MetalShredder33]

Prince that definetly helps. ill keep that in mind. and DJ no i didnt.

[princerupe74]

If in the hopefully unlikely circumstance where she turns you down, accept her decision with grace. It's really important you respond nicely with something like "Ah well, that's a pity because you seem really nice" - she will really respect you for that and may change her mind. But I suspect you wouldn't be considering asking if you weren't confident of getting a yes. A great way to calm nerves is to have an alcoholic drink first, but definitely not a large one!

[princerupe74]

So what happened?

[MetalShredder33]

She said yes!!!! Thanks for all your help everyone :D