I Feel So Ashamed

[lady-janine]

this is very difficult for me but the other day I forgot a special date. I have tried to make amends but been rebuffed. how do I cope with not being perfect in every way?

I must admit to not being very good at remembering birthdays, anniversaries, etc.

[tonyav]

Looks like you'll have to let him use your tools without asking you first now, lj.
;-)

[gness]

Oh heck.....someone close?

[ummmm]

I wouldn't be ashamed. I think most people expect it from me.

[weecalf]

don't worry people forget things ,why were you concerned again

[stuey]

Four "Our Fathers"; ten "Hail Marys"; and fifteen minutes of self-imposed flagellation...That'll learn yer.

[lady-janine]

tony - no way. i'm not that ashamed!

because I seem to do it most years unless I am reminded. you'd think after 25/30 years i'd remember.

why can't he remind me?

[Mamyalynne]

No one is perfect - the other person is behaving poorly if they are rebuffing your apologies.

[mrs_overall]

Why do you feel guilty when it is his fault for not reminding you?

[gness]

LadyJ...I could never remember our wedding anniversary....so when MrG smugly presented his card and pressie I told him I "forgot" out of kindness to him......so he could have the pleasure of feeling smug....once a year....☺

[cupid04]

mrs o for best answer, lol!

[lady-janine]

because by now I should have thought of several other reasons, not just "well, you never said anything. I can't remember everything. most things but not everything." and "oh dear I have been so busy thinking of important things".

[tonyav]

mrs_overall
Why do you feel guilty when it is his fault for not reminding you?

Yeah but she forgot to remind him to remind her.

[cupid04]

give him an iou for a naughty evening...

[lady-janine]

mamy I even offered to take him to his favourite restaurant (arm and leg job) and was told no, it was too late.

so I've done nothing. but it niggles.

[DTCwordfan]

Don't you have a diary for dates/appointments in your pc - or send yourself an e-mail with all your key dates on it and keep it in your e-box, checking it monthly (that's what I do).

[lady-janine]

no tony. I just didn't give it a thought.

[mrs_overall]

Tony - that was feeble ;-)

[Mosaic]

Special date, shmeschal date. People need to grow up.

[gness]

Well, if it's the OH tell him you're divorcing him and marrying someone else on a memorable date......like Christmas Day.....xx

[tonyav]

Oh well lj, as Mamya said 'No one is perfect', wish I had a pound for everytime I've forgotten something. Don't beat yourself up about it.