Forgivness

[nailit]

(Cant imagine this getting many replies)
What is the worst thing that you have been forgiven for?
Hell, I'm at that point in life where I cant even see the point of holding on to grudges. (well, almost).
Still got some issues but trying my best to work through them.
But I'm well aware that I myself need forgiveness for certain things.
I say certain things and do certain things which impact on the lives of those around me, sometimes without me been aware of the full impact of what I say or do.

Have you ever been forgiven (or asked to be forgiven) for something that was ''unforgivable''??

[-Talbot-]

Leaving the toilet seat up... I'm almost perfect!

[mushroom25]

it's a lot easier to ask for this, than it is to ask for permission....

[Kidas]

Hi Nails

Hard-won experience talking here...

In general, holding on to grudges (or choosing not to forgive someone who has wronged you) has zero impact on the other person, but eats you up inside.

The more you can let go of your own anger or a sense of injustice against those who wronged you, the better your life will be.

Just sayin'

[nailit]

Kidas, agree 100%

[nailit]

Theres nobody more than me that needs forgiviness, I'm well aware of that. Well aware that I can be a knob etc. just aware that I need need it.
Just question others need of it?

[Sqad]

"In general, holding on to grudges (or choosing not to forgive someone who has wronged you) has zero impact on the other person, but eats you up inside. "

I agree entirely IF you are the forgiving type.
I am NOT.
Wrong me and i will NEVER forgive. Vindictive? Bloody right i am.

"The more you can let go of your own anger or a sense of injustice against those who wronged you, the better your life will be."

I agree 100% BUT it is not for me, I would rather suffer than forgive.

[237SJ]

I prefer to forgive but not forget..

[murraymints]

Afraid I never forgive nor forget when I have been seriously wronged...no second chance in that circumstance !

[Arksided]

I find it quite easy to forgive folk, especially with a little understanding. I've done numerous thing that I now feel guilty about.

However it took my SIL over a year to forgive me drinking her bottle of bacardi.. quite easily replaceable but didn't realise it was a gift from her late father.

[gness]

I will give some thought to your question, Nailit......I tend never to regret a word or deed but I'm fairly easy going and don't get into barnies...
But I will slightly disagree with Kidas....

I can't say I ever "forgave" my mother for the childhood, teen and early adult life she put me through......she never asked for forgiveness as she was always in the right....
I just put it out of mind and I built the bridges and treated her very well.....until......five years ago when I discovered that a bad thing that happened to me was all down to her and her lies.....and it can't be changed now which is so sad....
I still can feel the long time I sat in shock and silence when I was told what she had done...
I would feel better about it and very happy if she hadn't been a long way into Alzheimer's by that time.
Had she been well I could have.....probably slapped her at best but preferably throttled her......
It doesn't eat me up....doesn't make my life worse but I would love to have been able to tell her that although it took thirty five years I found her out.....
That'll always be a little....grrrrrr niggle.....but my life wouldn't be any better for letting that niggle go, Kidas...... :-)

[david small]

Forgive maybe, forget never.

[Kidas]

Hi all. I did say 'in general'

There's a difference between being wronged and 'turning the other cheek', and making sure it does not happen again.

I used to be a 'don't-get-mad-get-even' kind of guy, but then realised it was not doing me any favours. Now I just try to avoid getting into situations where I have to deal with someone has done me serious wrong in the past. If I can't avoid it, I look to minimise the risk of future pain.

But that's just my experience - not trying to suggest it is the path everyone should follow. Whatever works for you.

[Prudie]

I genuinely don't think I've ever really done anything unforgivable. The other way round, I can park things but I never ever forgive those who have hurt me so unlike the rest of my family I avoid rows like the plague.. It is a fault but I can't help it. Unforgivable is just that.

[NoMercy]

I'm not a person who is angry, bitter or twisted, but I'm not the forgiving type either and I never EVER forget.

[NoMercy]

I've learned from past experience that forgiveness is wasted on some.

[Arksided]

we have noticed Nom Xx ;-)

[NoMercy]

Noticed what, Arky? My razor-sharp memory? ;-)

[Arksided]

Yep, thats the one. ;-)

[jakep]

Truly believe I have not done anything too serious as to require major forgiveness, small spats with friends is all. Three people have found out that I neither forgive or forget.

[ummmm]

I don't hold grudges.

I've never done anything I'm ashamed of.