Do You Agree Or Disagree

[sandra4444]

If you show fear in the face of a bully, the bullying will only escalate and never stop.

[andy-hughes]

I agree.

You should face a bully down at the first opportunity.

By definition, they appear larger and stronger, but its an illusion.

[Bobbisox1]

Bully’s are weak people who have inadequacies in their lives , their only strength is badgering people but they never win

[Atheist]

I think that bullies may well be stronger and larger. If they are weaker and smaller they wouldn't get the opportunity to bully.

[Atheist]

Strong large people aren't necessarily nice people.

[Mamyalynne]

In general Sandra, I agree with facing them without fear - there may of course be caveats however.

If your encounter is late at night and lonely and they are armed - pick your moments

[andy-hughes]

Atheist - // I think that bullies may well be stronger and larger. If they are weaker and smaller they wouldn't get the opportunity to bully. //

If you re-read my post, you will note that I was careful to say bullies 'appear larger and stronger' - because bullying has nothing whatsoever to do with physical size, it's about the ability to intimidate.

[Atheist]

Mamy; there are bullies at work; not just aggressive violent people out on the street at night. Bullies at work are probably in positions of power, not underlings.

[andy-hughes]

Mamya - // If your encounter is late at night and lonely and they are armed - pick your moments //

That's not bullying, that's potential assault, not the same thing.

Bullying, by definition, has to take place over a period of time, and often does not involve threats of physical harm.

[Atheist]

Andy; that's true.

[jourdain2]

Yes, I agree. As a small girl I had long plaits and boys swung on them (it hurt when they jumped up behind you) dipped them in inkwells etc.. It didn't help when age 6 I had to wear glasses (the little, round, pink NHS ones with wire ear hooks).

Being called 'specky four-eyes gumboil swing' so often, jeeringly, really hurt me. I was in tears and didn't want to go to school.

My mum had a word about bullies with me and instilled 'sticks and stones may hurt my bones - mere names can never hurt me' so thoroughly that the next time a boy jumped onto my plaits I swung round and lammed him one right on the nose! I made it bleed. He didn't dare tell his mum or a teacher - but I wouldn't have cared anyway.
I've carried on like that - given that I no longer have plaits and didn't clout bullies any more; there are subtler ways. :)

[Bobbisox1]

Bullies are people who feel big especially if they surround themselves with a ‘ gang’ , I remember at school such a person, she picked and provoked me with her mates till I turned and give her a good hiding ( was allowed then) now, if I saw a bully in real life , I’d likely pour a drink over them and walk away laughing :0)

[andy-hughes]

jourdain - // My mum had a word about bullies with me and instilled 'sticks and stones may hurt my bones - mere names can never hurt me' //

It's absolutely true, but the phrase always reminds me of a line in the film Talk Radio - highly recommended - where the supremely cynical radio talk show host signs off saying "Remember folks, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words cause permanent damage!"

[andy-hughes]

Atheist - // Andy; that's true. //

Indeed it is!! LOL!!

[douglas9401]

Sticks and stones can come in handy from time to time.

Not all bullies are mind gamers.