My Mum Judges What I Wear (I'm 51)

[Treacle71]

I like boho/folksie/vintage clothes and I wear pale green frilly dresses with brown boots. She'll say, "Why can't you dress more like everyone else and more worldly?" Well, I like my dress sense as it's very much "me". I think deep down because I'm single it'll make men less attracted to me by continuing to dress how I do. I live with her currently. How can I get round this?

[davebro]

tell her to mind her own business. dress how you like - the right man will find you

[Buenchico]

Be direct.

e.g.
" I dress this way because it makes me feel good and I don't need you to try to make me feel bad, thank you! Now, how about a nice cup of tea?"

;-)

[davebro]

if you want him to!

[Prudie]

Live with it I'd say. My mother was the same but one day they are gone and you end up thinking her quirks are what made her your mum and you'll miss her for it.

[Paigntonian]

Grow up?

[nailit]

Im 51.....
And you still live at home??
Yeah right!
Course you do....

[naomi24]

When my husband grew a beard his mother huffed and puffed and said disapprovingly, ‘Hmmm … I don’t like beards!’

His reply? ‘Just as well you’ve not got one then!’

Take it in good humour. Whatever your age, you’re her child and she loves you.

[Treacle71]

I certainly do, nailit.

[Canary42]

/// His reply? ‘Just as well you’ve not got one then!’ ///

Coffee all over the keyboard again. LOL.

[Vagus]

Just smile, shrug your shoulders, say ok, then ignore her and carry on dressing how you want to. You don’t need to change or justify how you dress.

[naomi24]

Haaaa! Sorry Canary. You’ve made me laugh now! :o))

[naomi24]

Nailit, perhaps she wants to live at home. It’s her choice.

[Treacle71]

I'm just financially savvy currently, plus apart from our disagreements mum is my best friend and I have no other family as they're all dead.

[naomi24]

Treacle, you don’t have to explain yourself.

[gness]

Do ignore it, Treacle. Nailit can be very rude and cruel at times.

Wear what makes you happy and do as I do....smile at Mum and say... I'm sure you're right.... :-)

[elliemay1]

// I think deep down because I'm single it'll make men less attracted to me by continuing to dress how I do.//
I'm not sure I understand what you mean by this. Do you not want men to be attracted to you?

[Treacle71]

Thanks guys. It's OK.