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Fatshamed Over 2 Kg By Doctor!
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I have a long term condition that requires monitoring. I am otherwise of good health. I eat healthy, exercise, drink water etc (though like everyone in lockdown I indulged in loads of takeaways).
I am of petite build and generally have low weight of about 52kg (8.2 stones)which is very good for my height at 5 ft 4. When I went to my appointment I weighed 54 kg (8.5 stones). TBF a lot of it is water weight/ food weight and bloating from eating too much bread. However I know that weight fluctuates so I do get bothered by these changes.
the doctor however looked me straight in the eye and said 'so you have gained weight since last time' and sneered at me with contempt. He then proceeded to mention that I had gained weight every third sentence during the consultation. I literally bawled out my eyes when I came home because I felt so humiliated - over a 3-4 lb gain! I don't see why it would be in anyway a matter of medical concern, there were no changes in my blood tests or blood pressure - I feel utterly fat shamed.
Is my experience the exception or is this normal conduct by doctors and if so, how is this allowed??!! How can shaming and humiliating someone over a 3-4 lb gain help anyone.
I would appreciate any advice on how to deal with it in the future should it ever happen again.
I am of petite build and generally have low weight of about 52kg (8.2 stones)which is very good for my height at 5 ft 4. When I went to my appointment I weighed 54 kg (8.5 stones). TBF a lot of it is water weight/ food weight and bloating from eating too much bread. However I know that weight fluctuates so I do get bothered by these changes.
the doctor however looked me straight in the eye and said 'so you have gained weight since last time' and sneered at me with contempt. He then proceeded to mention that I had gained weight every third sentence during the consultation. I literally bawled out my eyes when I came home because I felt so humiliated - over a 3-4 lb gain! I don't see why it would be in anyway a matter of medical concern, there were no changes in my blood tests or blood pressure - I feel utterly fat shamed.
Is my experience the exception or is this normal conduct by doctors and if so, how is this allowed??!! How can shaming and humiliating someone over a 3-4 lb gain help anyone.
I would appreciate any advice on how to deal with it in the future should it ever happen again.
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"I had gained weight every third sentence during the consultation". You really ought to stop eating during a conversation.
If you understand that the gain isn't that excessive and easily dealt with then you ought to try to remain philosophical about it. If this doctor's manner isn't something you can remain insensitive to then maybe it's best to move to another practice. In life there are all sorts of folk around with different ideas about how to manage a situation. This doc felt you'd respond to his disapproval and be incentivised to lose the weight before it went up further. If you are devastated by that strategy then try to put it behind you, and just accept it's not a method that you feel comfortable with.
Good luck with the weight loss.
If you understand that the gain isn't that excessive and easily dealt with then you ought to try to remain philosophical about it. If this doctor's manner isn't something you can remain insensitive to then maybe it's best to move to another practice. In life there are all sorts of folk around with different ideas about how to manage a situation. This doc felt you'd respond to his disapproval and be incentivised to lose the weight before it went up further. If you are devastated by that strategy then try to put it behind you, and just accept it's not a method that you feel comfortable with.
Good luck with the weight loss.
Doctors are only human, have their good days and their bad days, make decisions which in retrospect they wish they had handled differently.
Looking back at your profile, you are a sensitive individual and for that you clearly have personality issues (as we all have I'm sure.)
We will never hear the Dr's evaluation or replies to your criticism of the consultation.
The handling of further such consultations with the medical profession is entirely up to you.
Looking back at your profile, you are a sensitive individual and for that you clearly have personality issues (as we all have I'm sure.)
We will never hear the Dr's evaluation or replies to your criticism of the consultation.
The handling of further such consultations with the medical profession is entirely up to you.
Like you I have been obese and lost a lot of weight for health reasons.
I have also had to put up with a lot of remarks from people about my weight; one health professional asked me what I was going to do about all my excess skin and was shocked when I told her I am going to live with it.
I know I am a healthy weight, I know my diet is healthy and well-balanced. I don’t give two hoots about other peoples thoughtless comments but I would have told the doctor exactly where I was on the BMI and that I would be underweight if I lost a few pounds.
It’s easy to say take no notice but you should try not to let these things get to you.
Change your GP if necessary.
I have also had to put up with a lot of remarks from people about my weight; one health professional asked me what I was going to do about all my excess skin and was shocked when I told her I am going to live with it.
I know I am a healthy weight, I know my diet is healthy and well-balanced. I don’t give two hoots about other peoples thoughtless comments but I would have told the doctor exactly where I was on the BMI and that I would be underweight if I lost a few pounds.
It’s easy to say take no notice but you should try not to let these things get to you.
Change your GP if necessary.
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This link in todays guardian is uncanny! and I am nowhere near overweight nevermind obese
This link in todays guardian is uncanny! and I am nowhere near overweight nevermind obese
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