His he playing games?

[XDivaX]

I'm getting so annoyed by this boy, I really cant suss him out. Wondered if anyone can shed some light on the topic because I just can't work out what he is thinking and wherever I'm being led on. Basically knew this guy from ages back but we never spoke to much up until two months back when we started chatting again online. One thing led to another and we met up for a drink one night. We have always said that nothing would happen because at the time we both had partners but at the moment both relationships are on the rocks and not going too well. Anyways this guy is VERY flirty and suggestive and on a number of occassions we have met up following him asking me to go out for a drink. He's told me he would eventually like more than just meeting up and a hug goodbye. I got back from my holiday last Tuesday and as soon as I got in I had a text asking me if i was back and how am i. So thats all good. But every now and then we can go for days without making contact and if I texted I don't get a reply. I don't wanna seem to keen so I'm trying not to text often but I really like him. I last spoke to him two nights back after he initiated the conversation which was the usual flirty chat and organising to go out again. The conversation finished and he said he would text me. Two days later not a word. Is he leading me on or just being a typical bloke and being very laid back and taking things in his own stride? From what he has said I gather he likes me but I don't understand how he can not be in touch for a bit and then out of blue start flirting again. Help. Suggestions please!?! x

[BigMac]

Think you might get some answers if you post this in Body and Soul.

[nursecarla]

sounds like he is only interested in a casual relationship and isnt prepared to split from his partner, the only way it could work would be if you are both single and he is serious about you, you cant know the second answer until the first bit is resolved.

[BigMac]

Sorry, here's a proper answer as well.

If you are both/were both in relationships, no matter how rocky, it may just be that he can't easily respond to you if he's with the other person.

If he can be bothered to get in touch the minute you get back from holiday [by the way, were you in touch with him while you were away? Did he try to reach you but you didn't reply? This has to be a two-way street, doesn't it?] then I'd surmise that he is indeed interested.

Play it by ear... if it works out then great, if it doesn't then no harm's been done, has it?

[XDivaX]

thanks for the replies. we spoke the night before i went and didnt contact each toehr for the whole week whilst i was away. i heard from him the day i came home which i thought was swweet cuz i figured he wouldnt of kept track of the days.

[robbo82]

First things first, when you say your relationships are 'on the rocks', what exactly doy you mean? Without being too moralistic or judgmental, maybe you should sort out one relationship before worrying about another. If you want something to happen with this other guy, go for it, but only if and when neither of you is with someone else. Also, don't use the state of your current relationship as an excuse to get together with someone else. I do honestly hope you sort everything out though and are happy whatever you do.